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welcome.....I'm on my first round of clomid....im on cd 29 and tested this morning and got a bfn.....which i was kind of shocked, my nipples are very sore, been queezy some, etc.....but now im waiting on my period to arrive......thing is, I have NEVER missed a period, and have regular cycles usually cd 25-28......altho last two months were irregular, 31 and 19. I have not done all of that yet. My boyfriend did a home sperm test...his numbers were good but did not check for motility.....im going to have him do it on Friday and take it to the lab since i got a bfn..may call and schedule an ultrasound...but thats 200 dollars......cant afford the dye yet........maybe we can go through with this together.......where is your cycle

LauraMarie

I'm right there with you! We have been trying since September 2007 and was fine up until April when I thought I was late and pregnant but it turned out I just ovulated late. We were so excited only to be crushed. I made appt. with my GYN and everything has come back fine with me and DH S/A is ok except for his morphology is really low. We have to work on that. The doc said that his low morphology could or could not be the reason we haven't gotten preggo yet and he said because he has a high sperm count and high motility we should not have a problem. This is my last cycle "actively TTC" for a few months...we need a break. We will continue to "not prevent" over the next 4-5 months but we are not using OPKs, temps, charts, calendars, etc. We are just going to try causally and if nothing happens by Christmas time we will go "active" again after the first of the year. I'm just emotionally and mentally tired and I want to enjoy the summer and the holidays coming up in the next several months without worrying what CD I am on and when I might ovulate. Thats where we are in our journey. = )

BABY DUST!!!!

I am also right there with all of you. Me and DH have been trying since March 07, I have had many let downs since then, since I now have an irregular cycle after coming off b/c. I thought for the longest time that it just takes some people longer to get pregnant then others so I really didnt worry about it too much until everyone else around me was getting pregnant and I still had not. I now have an appt with a gyn on July 2nd to hopefully start a more aggresive approach to conceiving. Hopefully we will get good news soon after my appt!!

GOOD LUCK EVERYONE AND BABY DUST TO ALL!!

Chas

Welcome to FT! I hope that everything you want comes to you and DH. I too had been on clomid and it does work. I did my 1st round of it showed that I did not o, yet I was pg. Well unfortunitly I lost the bby due to ep. I am moving on and we are in the ttc loopty loop again. I am going to start seeing an RE b/c I only have one working tube now. So just know that there are a lot of us to lean on for support in the ttc group. I wish you all the best in you journey.

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Thanks for sharing.....I am ok if its a bfn, but just come on with my AF so I can try again.....I dont want a longer cycle.....that just draws it out more. *sigh* i feel like nothing is in my control

Yeah I also know how that is!! Try going 85 days with out AF.... talk about waiting FOREVER! In the past 5 months I have only had AF 1 time! Crazy huh?

I know I'm whining and many of yall have gone through so much more than I. It just amazes me how strong some of yall are. That is crazy Vanessa.........can't you get that medicine to help you start your period, what is it called Provera? or something

Yeah I am sure that I can I just havent seen a dr about it yet. That is coming soon, which I am very excited about!

Its ok to whine even if you havent gone through as much as someone else because it is still hard... no matter how long or hard you try. Sometimes for the people that have been trying longer or harder it is more frustrating but no less hurtful in many aspects!

How long have you been trying?

well....not really trying, but not really not trying either......for 3 years....saw my ob/gyn last october and went back in may for the clomid rx....i feel some timing pressure.....im 34 boyfriend is 28, but I have a 14 yr old son and WANT a baby while he is still in the nest

Thats quite awhile. Have you had any test done to find out why you are not conceiving? Do you have PCOS or anything to complicate things?

34.... you still have some time before you have too much to worry about! There a few ladies on here that know people that are having babies and the are past 40 so dont let that stop you!

How do you like clomid? Have you had any side effects from it?

i have not been diagnosed with anything....i shared with my ob/gyn that at the start of every AF I had burning sensations in my ovaries........burning, not pain...I was curious about endometriosis.....but she dismissed it and said well if you want to get pregnant, dont even look into that b/c the treatment might cause infertility...i had blood work......and it was fine.....I was scheduled for an ultrasound but I've been delaying it to come up with the money...I have to pay everything.....and we talked about the dye thing, but she said that was a thousand.........My plan is to do 3 rounds of clomid, if that doesnt work, Ill do the ultrasound and then save to get the dye....and then save to go to a RE.

I dont like taking clomid, but I'll love it if it works! :) I had headaches, sharp pains, subtle pains, hot flashes.....pain during sex on cd 25, 17 and even on cd27....and now bfn and it might have caused my cycle to be longer?.....I really dont want to take it again, but it seems like its my best choice right now

Hopefully Clomid works for you so that you dont have to spend all that extra money on tests and can spend it on a new baby!

Wow! I know that other ladies on here have said that they have had some side effects from it too, but then there are others that didnt have any at all. I am debating on if I should ask for it when I see the dr next week.

id say its worth having a conversation with the doctor....if you do, i would definitely recommend also asking about provera......in case you dont get your AF, just so you can keep trying......i would recommend asking more questions than i did......my ob/gyn told me to take it 5-9 and that was it......no monitoring.....but some get u/s for follicle size, etc. I wish I had some monitoring. Thats why I have gotten online every day to learn more about it and others experiences, so I'll know what to talk about next time...

So what are some of the questions that I should ask? I have few but I really dont know where to start. Any advice?

well, i personally know my ob/gyn....and i still kinda feel like i get brushed off.....im not very good at making sure i get my money's worth and ask questions and understand things before I leave..........but I would definitely research clomid and provera (I havent started that research yet) and let them know you know about these drugs to help conceive/and get AF.......I had never heard about Provera before reading posts....I guess I wish I would have asked how the clomid worked more....I didnt know when to expect ovulation or when to have intercourse or anything. I would tell them that you have been online and that some get monitored and have some tests and other things done after the clomid to verify that its working and about getting cysts on the ovaries, and should you do any of that....What happens if you get extreme pain? I had subtle pains, and also had sharp pains where I actually had to sit down one night I tried to get out of bed to go pee and I screamed out in pain...so how much pain is alarming? also...think about my situation, What does the doc want you to do if you test and get a bfn, but then no AF comes? When should you go back in?.......I dont know how old you are, but that may play a role in what the doc says, thats all i can think of at the moment, if i think of anything else ill post it

Awesome! Thanks for the advice!! I wrote it all down so that I dont forget! I hope that she will try to get me on something to make AF come and then to hopefully conceive soon!

i would say at the very least she would address the no AF part, that would be the first step.....then you need to figure out if you ovulate or not (i used opks for several months and they worked ok, but i dont like using them...cuz i spent my money and timed it right, but still no luck getting preggo)......but talk to her about the other stuff.......make a plan.....if she thinks you should just try....suggest what do i do if i try for 4-6 months and it hasnt worked? then maybe it will be clomid....and then what?

I know my ob/gyn said after this, I should go to a RE reproctive endocrinologist. I heard its about 300 for the 1st visit alone. For me, its not only the costs, but the costs and time of getting there......there isnt one for over an hour away and I hate going to the city.

There is another drug, like clomid called Femara i think.....some are successful with that one when not with clomid......then there are trigger shots (which im not sure about totally but think they make you ovulate in 24-36 hours so you would know when to have intercourse......that might be worthwhile talking about.....i may ask about those.......then there's iui's (injectables) which are hundreds for each one......and then ivf

you may want to ask about trigger shots as well, if not for immediate use....maybe have it in mind for the future, just in case.....im not sure my ob/gyn would even do those.....may need a RE.......I'm not an expert and just learning myself.......but hope this helps some.......its helping me to sort out all this info I've taken it over the last few weeks!

Yeah you are very helpful! Thank you!!

One thing that I dont have to worry about is the cost since my DH is in the military so they pay for all the medical bills... THANK GOD!!

I really hope that she doesnt tell me that I have to keep trying for like 6 months, because I have been trying for like 15 months and nothing has happened so there has got to be something wrong.

I have never used the OPK just because I feel like I will be wasting my money since I dont always know when AF will come and cant time when I should ovulate. Maybe if she puts me on provera I will try them.

Dr. Q told me that it could be because I am thin so I dont ovulate and told me about the gonal shots or something so I will also be asking about that!

It is nice to have someone who kind of knows what to expect and give me advice!! Thank you so much!

I just bought a saliva microscrope for under 20 dollars......you can reuse it every month, so it helps with the costs......ive read some love these and others have a hard time reading....i thought it was worth the try for next cycle...you just put a drop on the tip and look for a ferning pattern....others say you can buy opk's for cheaper, in bulk from ebay........i looked last night but did not decide yet.....it would be nice to have a whole bunch, b/c like you said its hard to know for sure......especially with you.....i feel that way at times, and im pretty darn regular

my boyfriend is so funny....he came home for work and i had talked to him yesterday about tomorrow morning about him giving me a sample in a cup to take to the lab for analysis....he was ok with it yesterday......but today when i brought it up i explained its about 100 dollars and the doctors wont proceed with me until we rule problems with him out......and he asked if I got my period today.....and I said no......and he said well, you still might be pregnant.....so we made a deal.....i will test on Monday morning if no AF by then....and if its bfn.......he'll give me a sample Wed. morning....I said Wed cuz if its bfn on Monday I'm going to try to get to the doc on Monday or Tuesday and ask whats up with this

you are very fortunate to be military....i was married to a marine and was in the army myself when i had my son 14 yrs ago.....and it was awesome...i ended up going to a civilian doctor b/c I left Panama.......but we only ended up paying 25 dollars.......ive already spent 300 dollars trying so far..and im just getting started.....one lady told me she had to do the ivf and spend 86,000 to have a child.......another girl with military told me they had to do ivf and it cost her 7000....thats not too bad, less than a car....and i think ivf is the most extreme.....my insurance pays zilch...of course....but itll be worth it if it happens

my b/f is already asleep......it is 7:30! i woke him up and had the.....when we have a baby i will not do this myself and you wont be able to fall asleep like this speech.......but he works hard, so i understand.......he was cute and said, ill lay the baby on my chest and close my eyes....it was kinda sweet.

jhough0903

I posted in 2ww but thought I would say hi on this board too. My husband and I have been ttc for 5 years. We weren't too concerned the first year but I then went to see my gyn. He had me do the usual blood work, ovulation kits and started me on glucaphage (I have PCOS) and after 6 months he gave the go ahead for clomid. I tried it for 5 months only took 100mg on days 3-7 but got very frustrated with it cuz hubby and I really couldn't have sex (became very dry and painful, even with lube).

We decided to give it a rest for a little and good thing I got really sick for about 6 months and couldn't ttc. I went back to my gyn and he did the same thing again; glucaphage 6 months and clomid for 5 months. I have to mention my husband went on clomid also to increase sperm count and motility, it was down a little bit from the norm.

I never once had an ultrasound to see how my ovaries were until after I developed a pretty big cyst that landed me in the hospital. He then ordered a HSG but it came up clear except the opening to my cervix and fallopian tubes are a little smaller than normal.

The nurse at the doctor office suggested iui but they only performed it with donor sperm. Well, duh, I want to use my husbands.

I called around to different docs to see who would use hubbies and found one. Started taking Femara days 3-7 instead of Clomid for two months but had residual follicles that wouldn't go away. New doc referred me to fertility clinic who put me on birth control for 5 months to get rid of them.

Finally was able to have iui done on June 17, after Femara days 3-7, Repronex shots days 8-12 and trigger shot on day 13.

Pray this works cuz shots cost $130 mo, femara only $20, trigger shot $20 and iui $500

Sorry this is soooo long, just needed to get it all out.

thanks for sharing!.....i wondered, this being my 1st round of clomid if my sharp pains might mean i have a cyst......i was scheduled for a ultrasound (200) but cancelled......the ob/gyn didnt sound like it was part of the clomid, just to take a look and check things out.........but i have a lot of things going on this summer and thought id wait and try 2 months first........maybe that was the wrong decision? do yall think i should splurge and go ahead and get the ultrasound?....my ob/gyn said all she would do would be the u/s or the dye thingy which costs 1000...and ill have to save to do that.....im trying to keep everything paid up so it doesnt consume me

maybe i should call for an appt for the u/s? is u/s how the tell folicle size? i dont know much about that

could you explain the iui thing to me.....i dont know much about that either

when i go back i am going to be well armed with useful info.....so i can make the best decisions for me

Awww Carolina your bf is sweet!! I am glad that he isnt giving you any problems about gettin a sample from him, some of ladies on here have really hard times getting one from their DH's!

I will have to look into the different options to find out ovulation. Thanks for the suggestion of microscope, I may try it!

Yeah I am fortunate to have military benefits, it really helps out a lot but the only problem is trying to get in and see a dr or getting a dr that actually knows what he/she is talking about!!

It is a good thing that you are keeping up on all the expenses, I bet that lowers your stress just a little bit! Even though I know how stressfull it can be to not have the money to do something you need to, but it is def. better then having tons of medical bills tormenting you!!

As for the u/s.... I think it might be a good idea to have it done just so that you know that everything is ok in there.

Yes, they can tell follicle size through u/s, but I dont know much more then that!

jhough~ You have def. had a long, hard road with TTC. I really hope that things work out for you. If I may ask what were your symptoms before you found out you had PCOS... Do you remember any?

someone somewhere recommended this site and i went and liked it alot

www dot babymed dot com

they have all kinds of calculators: body mass index (I need to lose 12 pounds! lol), ovulation calc/clomid calc, etc.......cute to check it out

well here i am on cd 31..........no AF........trying to wait to test

I will take a look at it thanks. I go to a site that is kind of like that called mymonthlycycles.com. Its pretty neat!

I am on cd59 and no AF also.... but I think she will be coming soon. I was having some bad cramping this morning! Hopefully she comes today or waits until after I see the dr so that I dont have to reschedule!!

Waiting to test used to be super hard for me too but I just hate seeing the BFN's all the time so I just dont unless I dont get AF for a long time.