FertilityTies posts tagged with problems

the long road to mother hood

Sat, 04 Jul 2009 08:59:04 -0500

im 22, my husbands 25, we have been trying for 4 years, we had one miscarage we calld him junior and we still see him as our son.

life rite now is hard for us both, we want so much to become a family we remain positive, rite now im looking for some female support with women who actually know how it feels to feel like your own body hates you every time your cycle comes around.

lisaandkarl

How often do early term babies have jaundice or temperature?

Sat, 07 Feb 2009 11:00:00 -0600

I'm talking like week 37/38ish???

My ds was born at 35 wks, and had jaundice, but no issues with breastfeeding...and he did have sleep apnea episodes twice, but came out of it himself.

How often do early term babies have jaundice, temperature issues (etc)??

Thanks

Mom of 2

Does an anterior placenta pose any risk if c section is needed?

Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:28:32 -0600

Of course we are planning vaginal again, but if c section becomes necessary..what risks or precautions are needed when the placenta is anterior?

Mom of 2

Can an anterior placenta cause problems during delivery?

Mon, 26 Jan 2009 11:56:25 -0600

My placenta is anterior and I know the baby is head down..but pretty sure right now she is sideways with her back to my left and she is facing my right.

Can an anterior placenta not enable her to turn face down for delivery? Does it pose any problems? I know its not near my cervix.

Thanks!

Mom of 2

Feeling Good & Grateful

Tue, 13 Jan 2009 06:51:37 -0600

I've been married for a year and 17 days to be exact. My hubby and I are looking forward for endless years of growing old together, happy and contented.

Having a family is a unique blessing, you feel more complete when you have kids around you. What else could we ask for?

Ever since I was a teen, there was already a soft feeling inside that I adore children very much.

Now that am married, we want to have our own kids and I would say that I a more complete. During our first year, I started doing lab test together with my hubby. I would like to share with you the results.

- I have retroverted uterus

- Both fallopian tubes were ok, though there was a delay flow on my left side.

- I have small follicles both my ovaries but my doctor hasn't confirmed yet if I have endometriosis or benign cyst. Hope not.

- Thyroid & Goiter results were in normal range

- Hubbys was normal too

I just finished my 5 day CLOMID treatment yesterday. And a follow up check up will be done on cd14. Keeping high hopes for BFP.

Having all these test and treatments, i sometimes ask myself "WHY" "What is wrong with me?"

I have a colleague in the office who got married only this October and after a month she got her bfp. I was really really envious at the same time happy for her. How come others can conceieve easily while my case is really tough?

I told my hubby the news and am really thankful that he was very supportive and patient enough to understand my feelings.

My hubby is my comfort zone for sure but i couldn't hide the fact that something is missing, something is wrong. I got all the results i needed, i have a good doctor but I needed more info to appease my frustrations with all the things I've been through physically, mentally and emotionally.

So i started browsing the net and found this site. At first glance, i had a feeling that this site will do me good.

While checking the thread of discussions and Q&A, i can feel that women of diff age, race, nationality unites and really support each other in every way, showing love and concern.

While at work, I quickly signed-in, checked all the much needed infos.

I got two discussions at first and i am so thankful for the shared ideas and experiences of each member.

May it be those trying to concieve, got problems, those got normal deliveries, normal babies, on the way, our doctors on-line etc... its like 'WOW, we are family here, supporting each other with lots of love.'

Now i don't feel stressed out, i tend not to ask myself WHY, i feel fresh and looking always on the brighter side.

Each of us have gone thru a lot, good and bad times. We shouldn't think that we're left alone with our problems.

This site is not just about asking remedy or cure, its also gaining true friends.

We are all here to support and will continue to share own life experiences.

With Lots of love.. Cheers!

mattie

Please, help!

Sat, 01 Nov 2008 12:16:38 -0500

I'm having a big problem!

I've got about one month and half ago that i have sex with a married woman! Since some weeks ago, i saw that i couldn't urinate easily, and i have to use power and pressure to urinate! And another thing is that my penis's glans is always wet, even if i am circumcised! Please, help me...

keidiselmanaj

Can a fibroid tumor cause issues TTC?

Mon, 20 Oct 2008 09:40:28 -0500

I know they are pretty common and they aren’t an issue in life but wondering if it is an issue with TTC. I had an u/s this morning and she saw one towards the bottom left side of my uterus and was like real calm about it so I didnt think to ask her about it. My mom has those and I know they aren’t a big deal, they don’t hurt.

Thx a ton!!

chelsharmony

ovulation

Wed, 01 Oct 2008 07:06:18 -0500

Dr.Q,

How common is it to have no ovulation problems before going on the pill at 22 years and then having ovulation problems at 27 after coming off the pill? Don't know if I'll have problems. Just wondering.

Jan

Am I Being Too Overbarring?

Fri, 12 Sep 2008 17:10:15 -0500

First things first, in every relationship before my husband I was cheated on. I was always a little overweight (but thought I was HUGE) and had a very bad self-esteem (still do, but I'm working on it).

Anyway, I know it's totally natural for men to be interested in some kind of visual stimulation (porn), but I'm not into that, it makes me feel horrible about myself (even more than I already do).

I mean, I don't care if he "handles" himself, but I hate the idea of him looking at another woman (via video or magazine) to do it! I can't say I blame him, though. After all, I have my period like every 2 weeks!

Anyway, I told him NO porn about a year ago and as far as I know, he's done really well with it, but lately he's been making little jokes here and there about porn and sexy women on TV and yesterday I found a magazine under our bed (not a porn, but still had half naked girls in it). I took the magazine along with another one I found at the foot of our bed and hid them.

Now I'm thinking that I'm being a little too over the top. I mean, at least they aren't actual porn magazines, but it's the point. I don't want to feel like I don't please my husband enough and he has to look at other women in magazines.

What do I do? Am I being too overbarring? How do I ease my insecurities? I keep feeling like this will lead to the worst and our marriage will end like all my other relationships have...

TwinMommy, Expecting #3!

Fertility Problem

Wed, 10 Sep 2008 09:20:43 -0500

My husband and me have been using no kind of protection (condoms or birth control) since october of last year. We have actually been planning sex around my ovulation time for the last 7 months. Do you think there is a fertility problem.

jill_hensley84

Trying to Conceive

Fri, 01 Aug 2008 15:00:57 -0500

Its been a year since my fallopian tube removal surgery, I had endometriosis, well they burned all of it out, and so when that was done, we found out that my husband had low sperm count and his testerone levels were low. So we order him some fertile XY and he has been taking testerone pills for about 4 months to increase his sperm. We can tell the difference, because he is putting out more volume. To make a long story short, this week we have been having sex every other day, because this is my fertile week. Well on day 17, I get this cramping in my stomach and pains in my lower back, I do not know if this is me ovulating or what. So as the day go on, I took Tylenol, of course, it didn't work. When I finally go home from work I started peeing every 20 minutes and it was only a little, so I thought well I might have a Urinary Tract infection, well the pains last night confirmed it, every time I went to the bathroom it hurts. My question is why did it happen now, and will this affect me trying to conceive this month?

Sandral Woods

preganacy

Wed, 23 Jul 2008 23:47:10 -0500

Dear Doctor,

My name is aarti ahuja I have throid test on July, 2007 it was 19.19 next 11.23, 2.44, 18.46 and now is 0.06 i take regular tablet of 50 mg. but still i am not conceiving or what i cant understand because my first abort happend on Dec, 2005 because of my fetal head is not formed properly so i do this after that i test the thorid test. please say suggest me what to do.

Thanks & regards

AARTI AHUJA

aarti ahuj

will i have problems conceiving?

Fri, 11 Jul 2008 05:55:40 -0500

i had my periods when i was only 8 yrs old. i was regular all throughout. in the past two years it's been kinda irregular (around a 45 to 50 day gap instead of my normal 32 to 35 day gap) i am going to turn 21 this year. My gynecologist had me do an USG and it showed that i had a septic cyst of 4.3 cm in my left ovary. i was absolutely devastated! she gave my a pill called normens which contains synthetic progesterone. i had it for 21 days(three times a day) and stopped and then i would have my periods 3 days afterwards. i continued for 3 months and had another usg and the cyst wasn't there anymore! but my ovaries were slightly enlarged in my 2nd USG. after discontinuing normens i did not have my period on my 30th day and my doctor told me that it was ok i can have normens for 5 days and then i had it 2 days afterwards. she also told me that my cycle could simply be a 45-50 day long one. Can it really be so? i really want to have a baby . i'm not married and i have not tried to conceive as yet. do you think i'll have problems when i start trying? please help

prova

C-sections

Sat, 05 Jul 2008 17:42:40 -0500

what kind of problems can arise from a c-section that could prevent a second pregnancy

Chyraune

Thanks DrQ.

Wed, 25 Jun 2008 23:58:15 -0500

Thank you DrQ. for your fast answers to my questions on recurring miscarriage test to be run, I am going to schedule an appt. tom. with an RE. Thank you for your time.

trisha moslet

thinking of having a nother baby

Mon, 16 Jun 2008 15:54:02 -0500

i am thinking of having a nother baby i have 2 children both of them was a clomid to get pregnent the thing is i was put on inselin with both but my diabeties are under controle but my waight is not i want to go and see the doctor but i dont want to be told that i can not go back on the clomid

amanda ralph

diabetic problems.....

Thu, 12 Jun 2008 18:43:15 -0500

hey does anyone out there have a boyfriend or husband that has diabeties and are tring to conceive and has had no luck? I think that my fiance has an infertily problem...like sometimes he ejaculates and sometimes there is nothing...does anyone out there have that problem please help!!!

kmt8081

is it possible.....

Thu, 22 May 2008 19:15:17 -0500

Can someone tell me if its possible to ovulate 2 days after your af? I have been testing myself all this week with opk's (the new digital tests with the smiley faces) and nothing....i should have ovulated this past tuesday and i didnt...can someone let me know?...this is the 1st month this has happened to me. I have been tring to have a baby for the past 4 months and now this is making me nervous that somethings wrong...has this happened to anyone?

kmt8081

please help iui problems

Mon, 19 May 2008 07:49:09 -0500

dear friends every time i have an iui this is my 4 everything goes well till the day of the iui then i end up with cramps and lower abdominal pain and back pain which ends up in AF i dont even last till my hcg test i am sick of going thru this every month....does any body have this same experience pls help.....

sunitha

What Nobody Told You About Trying to Conceive...

Sat, 17 May 2008 08:29:51 -0500

This is a collection of thoughts from women facing the emotional rollercoaster of infertility. Some of it may make you cry, some of it may make you smile. The important thing is to realize that you are not alone in your struggle. Infertility may be the most difficult time of your life spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically and mentally.

What Nobody Told You About Trying to Conceive...

That unprotected sex doesn't necessarily lead to pregnancy.

That your sex life would start to resemble a science experiment.

That you would see your OBGYN/RE more often than your DH at O time.

That the longer you TTC, the more PG women spring up around you.

That deep down inside, I can be a very jealous person.

That one day you wouldn't mind checking your CM or CP to see if it is your fertile period.

That I should have gone to medical school like my mom wanted, because I've had to do so much medical research by now just to figure out what was wrong with me, I might as well be an M.D.

That I would know more about the female reproductive system and menstrual cycle than most of the doctors I go to.

That living your life in 2 week increments would be the norm

That you never knew how much you wanted to see those 2 pink lines......until only one shows up every month

That simply relaxing will NOT get you pregnant. (your dh has to do some work too)

That you have no control over some of the goals you set...

That wishing really hard for something doesn't make it happen, and staring at your chart doesn't make it change!

That one day my DH would know so much about how my uterus functions and what it looks like from the inside (thanks HSGs).

That a pregnancy doesn't always equal a baby.

That miscarriage is so common.

That I would wish we had started TTC earlier.

That my friends' pregnancies would start to make me sad instead of happy.

That I wasted ALOT of money on Birth control pills!!

That it would help bring a group of wonderful, caring, funny, empathetic women together like this.

That I would EVER be willing to stick a little blue pill up my hoo-haa (estrace pill...done vaginally),

That I'd EVER be willing to stab myself in the stomach or @ss every day in the hopes that it will help get me PG.

That it wouldn't happen the first time you didn't use birth control like we were led to believe in school.

That you wouldn't know how important a baby was to you until it took so long and you realized what you were willing to go through to make it happen.

That family would act like getting pregnant was a competition between all the young couples in the family, and the first one to get pg "wins".

That my DH is the most wonderful and caring man!

That it is insensitive to ask people when they are having a baby!

Tat women who do get pregnant are so very blessed!

That I could have been rich saving money on condoms, which were obviously unecessary.

That I would be happy to see abundant cervial fluid and tell my DH about it.

That other people's "good news" of pregnancy makes me sad and when they tell me they have good news, I hope that they just saved a bunch of money on car insurance by switching to Geico.

That medicine and procedures are not a sure fire way to get pregnant but it is a sure fire way to lose money fast.

That had I bought stock in Clearblue Easy I'd have my mansion on St. Pete's Beach in FL by now.

That docs should prescribe Zoloft with Clomid.

That having flo show up makes you cry, no matter who's bathroom you are in.

That it does not get easier, each cycle is harder than the last.

Feeling like you wish your life away in 2 week increments.

That I wouldn't want to hold or see someone's baby because it just hurts way too much.

That a group of "strangers" who I will probably never meet, have now become my "best friends" when it comes to ttc.

That I would splash urine on my face while taking apart an hpt in the hopes there really was a 2nd pink line hiding in it.

That talking about sex with fellow TTCers would be so easy.

That infertility is more common than you think.

That DH would get used to doing his 'thing' in a jar.

That one day all of this will make us stronger.

That there is sometimes darkness (infertility) before the light (a baby).

That no one I know (in my non FF life) would have any understanding as to how I feel.

That my temper and patience are much shorter than I ever thought.

That infertility is not as rare as I was led to believe.

That I would find it extremely difficult to be happy for other people's pregnancies and I would burst into tears upon hearing their news.

That my faith in God would be tested heavily.

That I would make so many new, wonderful friends who totally get how I feel because we all suffer from the same affliction of infertility.

That it could hurt so much to lose your innocence.

That I am very bitter towards unmarried accidental pgcys, and slightly bitter towards married accidental pgcys.

That there is nothing to aid conception in the water at work, despite what some may say.

That I am so glad my neice was born when she was, early in our ttc, because if she were born now I don't think I could deal with it.

That someone I thought to be my best friend would hurt me by saying that she was sick of hearing about my efforts at ttc.

That I'd discover who my true friends are, both IRL and online.

That I'd ever be able to bond with my step-sister (also infertile).

That I'd be glad to know that I have PCOS - because at least I know what's wrong.

That I would know about other peoples' BD, CP, CM but not know there real name, their DH's name, or their occupation.

That I could spend so much time and money on figuring out what my body is doing (or not doing).

That I would have to rely on doctors to give me the final say-so on what I can or can't do (on a med/procedure break forced by my RE against my wishes)

That foreplay would consist of DH asking "How's your cervix today"

That an HSG will tell you more than just whether or not your tubes are blocked. I had no idea your uterus could be misshaped.

That one person could be "cursed" with so many different fertility problems.

That I should have become a gyno-which I think at this point I know more then some.

That some people just say the wrong things.

That a simple blood test costs $648!

That sex would ever become a chore!

That actually having a miscarriage would allow me to understand the loss that others have felt.

That miscarriage would make me want a baby even more than before!

That I would resent someone who has been trying less time than me telling me "I know how you feel..."

That DH would be overly concerned that our BD positions were the most effective ones!

That I would become NUMB to the wonderful world around me that I already have (DH, DD, family, friends, dogs, fun, etc)!

That I would become addicted to POAS and not sleep at night because I couldn't wait to POAS in the morning!

That I would be so sad, and ashamed.

That I would learn to speak in code

Like I checked Cm which was EWCM but when I will POAS who knows, dh won't let me for fear of BFN

That when AF showed up you would feel broken and disfunctional.

That your friendships with your real life girlfriends would suffer because they got pregnant after being off the pill for 3 weeks.

That this would be, by far, one of the hardest things you will ever have to go through.

That you HAVE to have sex even though you don't feel like it, but because your FM says high or peak.

That people would pity you and feel sorry for you.

That I would meet such wonderful group of people that I can share my sorrow, frustration and fears with.

That I would be going to a psychic to find out if there was a baby in my future (she told me twins in 3 to 5 months!)

That I would dream about taking my temperature and be disappointed if I woke up at 3am and it wasn't time yet.

That I would stop fantasizing about having a baby because it stopped making me happy.

That I would buy herbs and otc creams like vitex and progest, use them for two days, and then chicken out.

That I would hear well-meaning questions like: "Have you thought of taking your temperature?" (and this is after 20 months TTC...)

That my brother, who started TTC at the same time we did and whose wife got PG three months later, would go on and on telling me how tough and tiring life with a baby is, and then finish with: "You have no idea what it's like!"

That the two little words of "just relax" uttered by everyone I know would enfuriate me beyond belief.

That someone would suggest adoption to me in order to get pregnant (because it happened to a friend of theirs) before I had even had any testing done.

That we would have to schedule a BD session so DH could do it in a cup a few days later.

That I would have to help DH do it in a cup. (Just this morning!)

That my friends who started TTC #1 around the same time we did would already be pregnant with #2 before we get pregnant with #1.

That I wouldn't be able to attend my friend's babies 1st birthday parties because of the quesiton, "So, when are ya'll going to have children."

That the people around me would become more insensitive as time goes on. "It is so hard having a new baby, you just wouldn't understand." or "Be happy you're not tied down."

That I would watch a Baby Story every day... only to cry every day.

That it puts this much strain on a marriage.

That I spent years trying not to get pregnant, and praying for my period. Now I can't seem to lose the witch!

It's good to know I am not alone.

That I would have to listen to people complain about their children as if they were burdens while a child is the one thing in the world I want the most. Also, they sound as if they are trying to talk me out of having kids, like it is the absolute worst thing that could ever happen to me.

That being overweight would cause people to ask when I'm due, which in turn could cause me to cry.

That I would yell at commercials on the TV (that "having a baby changes everything" one really gets to me. I can't watch it without snapping "So does not having one.")

That I would have to stop watching Birth Day and A Baby Story (two shows I love) because it just hurts too much.

That every girl should go to the gyn as soon as she gets AF the first time. If I had, I would have been dx with PCOS a lot faster.

That a friend would hid and ignore her own pregnancy to try to keep me from being upset. (we found out when she gave birth)

That sex does NOT ALWAY equal pregnancy or STD every time

That your body has its own mind.

That you would be keeping it a secret from everyone.

That you would cry your eyeballs out b/c AF showed.

That you would be jealous when everyone around you get pg including your 16yo cousin.

That you would tell everyone you're not ready for a child when they ask what your waiting for.

Life as you know it will be interrupted for two weeks.

That the broken heart you feel each month that is equal to the pain you feel when you lose a loved one.

That all of a sudden nursing other people's babies becomes a depressing NOT joyful feeling

That you feel useless as a female

That you will soon be lying through your teeth telling people that you don't want children

That you feel that your body has betrayed you by not delivering a regular cycle, the right about of the required "hormones" or doing what it should now how to do.

That you feel stupid and naive for thinking a pregnancy would occur "when it was supposed to".

That answering questions (and usually lying) about pregnancy or family plans would hurt so bad.

Posted on 07 Jul 2007 by twoweekwait.com

Reading through that really made me feel like I wasn't alone in my feelings even more so than having all you ladies to talk with. Feel free to comment and add yor own thoughts!

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