FertilityTies posts tagged with frustrated, ttc

Confused about DH PLEASE HELP

Tue, 18 Nov 2008 15:30:33 -0600

So Dh wants a baby just as much as I do, but when I bring up the idea of BD'ing he gives me excuses. I've asked him about it, and he just tells me he's tired or doesn't feel like it. I don't ask him all the time, but I tell him the days that are best to BD and when I should O so that he's in the loop. Am I putting to much pressure on him? I thought he wanted this too. I'm very confused and little upset that we're not BD'ing when we should be. I feel like we're wasting time. Any advice or suggestions? Thanks

Bree Maggiore

frustrated with DH

Sun, 07 Sep 2008 10:15:36 -0500

so...heres the short story. dh and i are ttc#1, i started trying the opk, got a + yesterday morning so showed him the test, explained the whole thing to him, and told him it was bd'ing time when we got home from work. well power was out when we got home and house was like over 100*, so we went to a movie. got home, power was on, and i was hoping to bd. well he started watching TV, when finally at 9:30pm decided to try bd'ing. (fyi, my hubby is diabetic) well after about 5 minutes of trying, it was obviously not going to happen..nothing seemed to co-operate. so he said sorry, and laid back down and watched tv.

i am so frustrated. he tells me he wants this baby too, always seems excited about trying, and now when he knows is the perfect time, he just gives up. i got upset, but didn't say anything. finally when we had turned off the lights, i think he heard me crying so he asked what was wrong. i told him i was frustrated, that i understood it wasn't really his fault that this didn't work out, and that i wished he was a little more romantic sometimes (ongoing issue with us). he didn't really say anything but i could tell he was upset with himself because he had made me sad, so i just told him i loved him, always would, and we went to bed.

am i right to be frustrated? i'm ovulating and he doesn't seem to care, but tells me wants a baby. i wish he would have given it a better try. i know he cant really control how things work down there all the time...its not like i was asking for an all nighter!! i guess i just wanted to vent it all...thanks for listening and the suport!

Bree_TTC

Trying to become a mother.

Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:42:04 -0500

Hi, I have been married to my wonderful husband for 3 years. In about February of 2007 we decided that we would like to start a family very soon, but being naive we decided that we would wait to start trying for a couple more months so that the baby would have a "good" birthday. In Canada anywhere between the middle of April until the end of September is considered a "good" birthday. So in June 2007 we started trying for our little miracle. We learned very quickly that this was not going to be as easy as we thought. We have now been trying for our little one for 13 months, which I know is not long compared to some of the other ones with aching arms.

I have irregular cycles which makes things all that much more frustrating. My cycles will range anywhere from 30 - 45 days (I was devastated with the 45 day one), and once I have my monthly it will last for about 7 days (with spotting on either side!!). I live in a small town so the medical care available is limited and the doctors here do not know a lot about fertility. You need a referral most of the time in Alberta to get in with a specialist, sometimes even to see an obgyn and then it is between 1.5 - 6 hour drive to get to them.

I am currently on CD14 and just finished a round of clomid 50mg on days 7-11. My doctor thought that you couldn’t take clomid if you were still bleeding so he started me late... that is what I mean by limited medical care. So I guess I am in another 2 week wait, but I try not to think about it too much. I do think however that the clomid helped me to ovulate earlier, because I think I ovulated yesterday and I usually don't until CD19-20.

Sometimes my heart and my arms ache so bad I don't know what to do. It's like you cry so hard it is an out of body experience, like this person isn't even you.

My sister-in-law just had her little miracle by emerge. c-section last night. So I'm super happy for them (ttc 1.5 years, 1 miscarriage) but I still feel a little sorry for myself. They also had the first girl in 3 generations which made my husband really sad because we were hoping to be the ones to break the record. I guess we are selfish. :)

Rachel W.

When is it time to.....

Mon, 23 Jun 2008 11:15:53 -0500

When is it time to see an RE? I told my self I wouldn't get frustrated but I am. We have been ttc since Dec. 07 and I had a m/c in Feb 08. Since then ... nada. I got pregnant with my son in 2 months and last pregnancy was conceived in 2 months as well! I just don't know ... I'm 23 and dh is 29. I have SUPER regular 28 day cycles. I am just so over this!!!!!!

Thunder