FertilityTies posts tagged with friends, family

How much of your infertility journey do you share...

Thu, 31 Jul 2008 11:41:00 -0500

...with friends, family, co-workers, etc.

I have told my sis, my best friends and a couple of people who I can trust from my moms group.

I've talked about fertility treatments with a couple people from church, but haven't told anyone that we've started.

I, personally, hate that look of pity you get from people when they know you're having trouble conceiving. So, when we were trying for Mia, we said "well, we're not trying and not preventing".

This time, we say, "we're trying, but haven't been blessed yet. We're trusting God".

What do y'all do?

ThisIsMelissa

The NICE things people SAY or do

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:56:47 -0500

Well I really enjoyed the post about the stupid things people say and do so I thought I would post the opposite~ the nice things people have said or done. I know I get a lot of support on here because we all know what eachother are going through. A lot of my friends don't understand because they have never been through anything like this.

My best friend however, has been awesome through my ttc journey. I have been having a rough time lately. I just had surgery Tuesday(laporoscopy, hysteroscopy, d&c, and dye study). During the surgery they found that both my tubes are blocked. They attempted to remove the endometriosis in my tubes and I have another dye study to determine if it was successful in a month. My dr. has warned me that it is a highly unsuccesful surgery though. If it did not work we will be down to IVF or adoption as our two options. My best friend lives in Guam and set her alarm (due to the time difference) to call me to check how my surgery went. I was devestated to say the least and told her the news. I told her I was ok. (Like I tell everyone). She responded "I know you are not ok and that's ok. You don't need to be ok. You have every right to be devestated and to fall apart for a little while. When you are ready we will pick up the pieces and figure out what to do next" That was the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me. She knows me better than anyone and it is so nice to have a friend I don't have to put on a happy face for. Anyone else have stories of people who have said really nice things to you during your ttc journey?

MrsM

How to tell people after multiple MC?

Fri, 23 May 2008 19:02:09 -0500

Okay! So I am excited and nervous! BUT at the same time I dont want to wait 3mths before I tell people. I have had 2 previous mc but I want to savor every day I am pregnant! Bad or good outcome!

Any ideas on a fun way to post on my blog to family and friends?

ShannonAz

Telling people....

Wed, 03 Oct 2007 21:51:16 -0500

Hi Girls. I was just wondering if any of you had told your family members or friends that you are trying to conceive and about what you are going through right now. Some people try and conceive and hope that it will be a surprise while others tell everyone that they are trying. I was just wondering how you all went about this and the reasons why.

Liane