FertilityTies posts tagged with family

Meet the family!

Tue, 02 Dec 2008 11:27:55 -0600

Okay Shelly yours was sooo cute that I just had to be a copy cat and make one! LOL

Hope ur not mad.... hehehe

I hope this wors! LOL

Chrissy

My Family!

Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:58:26 -0600

Here are some pictures of all 3 of my natural children, I have 4 step children too. I do not think its appropraite to post their pics w/o permission! So there wont be any of them...they would think Im nuts! lol

MrsMiller(akaShelly)

How to tell family about fertility treatments?

Sun, 26 Oct 2008 20:48:09 -0500

Hi all,

I'm struggling with whether to tell my mom that DH and I are about to do IVF/ICSI. I have a decent relationship with my mom, but she can be judgemental and critical at times. However, I feel a bit guilty about not telling her. One of the reasons I'm reluctant to share the news is because I'm fairly certain that my mom might make me worry unnecessarily. And, she's very close to her friends and sister, and I know she'll probably tell them, too.

Another reason is that we're doing ICSI due to male factor, and I don't want her to know that about my husband.

Did you tell anyone? If so, who? If you didn't why not?

Is this the sort of issues that should stay between couples?

Your responses will help me a lot. Thanks in advance.

Christine

My Family Album

Thu, 25 Sep 2008 12:45:21 -0500

I'd like to share with all of you my family album. I hope you all like it! Thanks to everyone who has given me support and friendship :)

Sar22222

Arrrgggghhhh I need to vent....

Mon, 01 Sep 2008 18:07:42 -0500

I so seriously just need to vent atm....

We told my fiancee's bro yday that we are ttc and that because we both have fertility issues then theres a big possibility that we will need IVF. His brother turned around and said straight to our face that he believed we'd make terrible parents because we dont have "High" paying jobs. Also because he feels that if fertility treatment is needed then its the worlds way of telling us that we shouldnt be parents. He told us that we would only mess up our childs life because we messed up ours (meaning we didnt go to uni, even tho Im paying my way thru higher education atm). He said that I was money hungery and was probly only with my fiancee for the money his mum left him, which I TOTALLY am NOT!!! We where together before his mum even passed away.

I have always tried to be poliet and respect him but everytime I have seen him, his spoken down to my fiancee and treated us like s**t. My fiancee is so upset about the things his brother said but his the type of person that doesnt like fighting or yelling so he has a hard time standing up to his bro, espec since its his only family left.

The things his bro said about me and us cut like a knife and hurt so much. All I want to do is tell him off but Im trying to restrain myself coz I dont want to cause more trouble for my fiancee and his bro.

Wat do I do? Do I just stand by and let someone talk about us like that or do I tell them off? I just want to tell him to butt out of our lives.....

flutterbyejewels

meds

Fri, 15 Aug 2008 20:22:29 -0500

i am on the metformin so chould i ask about clomed to

Jenn TTC#1

Prayers for Family needed

Mon, 11 Aug 2008 19:45:19 -0500

My family and I could really do with prayer atm.

Yesturday afternoon my grandfather (dads side) passed away from alone in his home from a heart condition whuch we had known about for quiet sometime. We are all taking this really hard and having a hard time that his final moments where alone.

I will be traveling back home sometime over the next few days to be with my family and try and sought things out (my brother and I have to plan funreal).

Shane has been amazing and I know that this is affexting him in a major way too even tho he didnt really know my grandfather all that much.

flutterbyejewels

How much of your infertility journey do you share...

Thu, 31 Jul 2008 11:41:00 -0500

...with friends, family, co-workers, etc.

I have told my sis, my best friends and a couple of people who I can trust from my moms group.

I've talked about fertility treatments with a couple people from church, but haven't told anyone that we've started.

I, personally, hate that look of pity you get from people when they know you're having trouble conceiving. So, when we were trying for Mia, we said "well, we're not trying and not preventing".

This time, we say, "we're trying, but haven't been blessed yet. We're trusting God".

What do y'all do?

ThisIsMelissa

The NICE things people SAY or do

Mon, 21 Jul 2008 19:56:47 -0500

Well I really enjoyed the post about the stupid things people say and do so I thought I would post the opposite~ the nice things people have said or done. I know I get a lot of support on here because we all know what eachother are going through. A lot of my friends don't understand because they have never been through anything like this.

My best friend however, has been awesome through my ttc journey. I have been having a rough time lately. I just had surgery Tuesday(laporoscopy, hysteroscopy, d&c, and dye study). During the surgery they found that both my tubes are blocked. They attempted to remove the endometriosis in my tubes and I have another dye study to determine if it was successful in a month. My dr. has warned me that it is a highly unsuccesful surgery though. If it did not work we will be down to IVF or adoption as our two options. My best friend lives in Guam and set her alarm (due to the time difference) to call me to check how my surgery went. I was devestated to say the least and told her the news. I told her I was ok. (Like I tell everyone). She responded "I know you are not ok and that's ok. You don't need to be ok. You have every right to be devestated and to fall apart for a little while. When you are ready we will pick up the pieces and figure out what to do next" That was the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me. She knows me better than anyone and it is so nice to have a friend I don't have to put on a happy face for. Anyone else have stories of people who have said really nice things to you during your ttc journey?

MrsM

pregnancy

Fri, 18 Jul 2008 05:48:04 -0500

i think i m pregnent i dont want to concieve this .how to overcome

divya123

2 Questions about birth control

Thu, 17 Jul 2008 14:49:10 -0500

1. Exactly how effective is the mini-pill with exclusive breastfeeding, if taken as directed? I'm so terrified of getting pregnant again to soon...

2. I was told before that being on and off b/c from age 13 is one reason my body was so out of whack and why I had trouble concieving the first time around. I plan to start a combination pill at 6 months when Christian starts to eat some food as well as breastfeed... and then in about 1 1/2 years after that, we plan on trying to get pregnant again. Will the birth control make it difficult? And how long before planning to get pregnant should I stop the pill?

Thanks Doctors! :)

Meghan

periods

Sun, 29 Jun 2008 18:20:27 -0500

when are you most likely to become pregnant what time of the month ,my period came yesturday do i count day one to day seven,and then im safe or what would you safe is my safe time thank you

mary patmore

Prayers Please

Fri, 20 Jun 2008 11:30:00 -0500

Everyone, please pray for my dad. He's been in and out of the hospital for almost a week and things just don't seem to be getting better. He's got heart problems among many other things.

Please keep my family in your prayers... I'm so scared something will happen and my dad will never get to see his first grandbaby. There is no babies from my siblings yet, since I'm the oldest. Does that sound selfish? I feel horrible. :(

wannabemommy

New to the board

Mon, 26 May 2008 22:55:56 -0500

Hello, I am new to this forum. My husband and I have been married 10 years and have been ttc for 12 months. We haven't told a lot of people we are ttc because we don't want all the constant questions, comments, and unsolicited advice. I have endometriosis (diagnosed in Nov 2001). I am 28 turning 29 and my hubby is 30. I just feel like it will never happen for us sometimes. I am a kinder teacher and it is so frustrating to see some kids that aren't cared for and it just doesn't seem fair. I just started a new healthcare plan so I will finally be able to go to the dr but am also a little nervous to find out there is something wrong that can't be "fixed." We tried for 6 months with me charting, using ovulation kits, etc but it was very stressful so we decided to relax and stop with all the charting. I have started to use an ovulation kit again. We have been actively trying for 1 yr but have not used birth control for 5years. I just get so discouraged and frustrated sometimes! It is hard because we have only told a few people and Im sure they get tired of hearing me vent. We are thinking of telling our families we are trying once I start going for testing. Does anyone have experience with telling families? I don't want them to be upset we didn't tell them for a yr but I also don't want to get non-stop questions, etc. Thanks for letting me vent--- I really needed that!

MrsM

How to tell people after multiple MC?

Fri, 23 May 2008 19:02:09 -0500

Okay! So I am excited and nervous! BUT at the same time I dont want to wait 3mths before I tell people. I have had 2 previous mc but I want to savor every day I am pregnant! Bad or good outcome!

Any ideas on a fun way to post on my blog to family and friends?

ShannonAz

Anyone else dealing with/dealt with this?

Tue, 20 May 2008 13:59:00 -0500

Okay, so, my Mom passed away when I was 16. I miss her, obviously.. but its one of those things I'm pretty much okay with now.. if that makes sense.. doesn't normally bother me really. The last time I felt really upset about her being gone was when I got married...

I was feeling fine about things, like her not being around for the birth of the baby, it is what it is, ya know? But, then, yesterday, when we were explaining that dh wouldn't get time off to my doctor, she started asking about famiy and asked if my Mom would be around to help with the baby and I lost it.. I cried in her office until I'd used up 1/2 her box of tissues...

I didn't realize it was kind of bothering me until now.. just wondering if anyone else has experienced the birth of their first baby without their mom around.. or if any of you pregnant ladies are in the same situation?

Meghan

YIKES!!!!!!!

Fri, 16 May 2008 15:15:21 -0500

Ok so I havent told my dad or step mom that im pregnant, but ive told my district manager due to I need some days off. Well my step mom came to eat lunch with me. She said it was hot and he was like I agree now I know your pregnant and everything but still. She looked at him and had this blank look on her face. She then turned and looked and me and asked me I was like yeah im 9 weeks. I wanted to wait until I was 12 to tell them but guess that isnt happening. My dad is on a fishing trip and wont be back tomorrow. Should I go ahead and tell him or wait?

BRANDI02

Also, what is a neat way to tell family?

Thu, 15 May 2008 14:26:19 -0500

Our families don't even know DH had a vasectomy reversal! We wanted them to really be SHOCKED when it happens! So, any great ideas on how to tell family?

Chrissy

My mother is 41/2 months pregnant!!!!!!!!!!

Wed, 16 Apr 2008 11:31:00 -0500

I found out last night that my mother is 41/2 months pregnant with a little boy and she is giving the baby to my uncle and his wife becasue she is too sick to care for an infant...I am so hurt and angry...I just don't know what to say or do..I didn't know because my mother and I live on different coast. Dh and I are supposed to get custody of my 10 year old brother so she said she didn't want to overwhelm me becasue we were also talking about moving closer to home in a year or so..What to do? what do I say? it was hard enought o have a close friend get pregnant but now my mother...oh and the questions that will begin to plague you all she will be 44 I will be 26 both in Dec.

Skittles

PLEASE PRAY FOR MY FAMILY...

Sun, 13 Apr 2008 04:09:43 -0500

Hi Ladies,

This has nothing to do with ttc but it does involve a very dear and loved little boy in my life.

About 5 and a half years ago my mum and I helped some family friends out when there family was braeking up and took there youngest child on to care for for wat at the time we thought was a few nights. Well a few nights turned into 5 and a half years! I was helping raise this little boy with my mum right up till last yr when I moved out of home. We have NEVER receieved any money to care for him as his mum wouldnt hand it over and DOCS would not step in and take custody of his parents. My mum and I raised him of her disability pension and the small pay I was getting.

This little boys name is Isaiah and his 6 on the 22nd march.

Isaiah's family consists of to older bros who are ADHD and father who is more interested n drinking themn his family and a more who likes to sleep around and do sexual acts on her little boys. There is proof of this happening but because our system is so ovger ran his family has just gotten lost so to speak.

Just recently his mum decided it was time she 'play mummy' with him starting school and all. So she told my mum she wanted him back thru the wks and mum could have him on wkends and in school hols as well as when his sick. My mum let this happen as if she didnt then legaly she could get into so much trouble.

This past wk my mum traveled to sydney with his whole family so that they could access medical services that arent available in the country. My mum ended up paying for the whole trip for the whole 6 of them. Anyway Isaiah has a bowel problem that causes him to dirty his pants without him relizing it. While they where in sydney he had many accidents and his mother woulde 'lay' into him (beat him). He has bruises everywhere. Still nothing has been done.

I have now just gotten of the ph from my mum who lives 5hours away and she is in tears and so is isaiah....

You see his mum turned up this arvo and demanded him back mum didnt fight and tried to explain to isaiah wat was going on. He got upset coz its holidays and he knows that this is his time with 'aunty dawn' (wat he calls my mum). His mum heard him upset and turned around slamed my mums door and walked of screaming that mum would pay and that 2moro morning she would be back for Isaiah and he would never be allowed contact with mum or my family ever again. As you would imainge we are all really upset and seriously fear for his saftey. We are trying to get emergancy legal aid atm but I cant arrange it for them till first thing in the morning. Can you please all pray that Isaiah will be safe and that my mum will be able to gain full custody of him. It could be many months fighting for him. But my whole family class him as a family member and we will all fight to the end for him.....

Im sorry if none of that made sense Im just typing as things come to my head. Please ask if you need me to explain it better. But PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE pray for him and my family

flutterbyejewels