I totally feel you on this one Lisa. Before getting preggo I was 5-7 days a week type of girl. When I got pregnant it was like "BAM" instantly no sex drive. There are days where I really really want it but it is so uncomfortable that when we try it just turns me off. I have been having tons and tons of "wet dreams" so to speak lol (sorry TMI) but I think that is my body's way of dealing with it. I actually have been having orgasms in my sleep....yeah I know lol....wow! Of course by the time I wake up the best part if over. I just know that it happened. A couple of times it woke DH too lol!! Everyone is different so just because one person has a high sex drive during pregnancy doesnt mean you will and vice versa!!!
When did your sex drive kick in during pregnancy?
August 30, 2008
Hello ladies :)
I am 20 weeks pregnant today!
So far since the very beginning of pregnancy I've had little to NO interest in sex. I thought the libido would kick in during the second trimester- but here I am at 20 weeks and NOTHING! I TRY to have interest- you know the "more you get it the more you want it" theory.. well so far still not really wanting it! This is such a HUGE change from what me and hubby's sex life used to be! Even before TTC! We thought going 2 days without was a long time! Now.. it's MAYBE 1 time per week- and that's if I FORCE myself to!!! I have read that some women just never get that increase in libido- while others (like meghan!- could never seem to get enough! ha ha) so- in your experiences- when- if at all did your sex drive start to increase during pregnancy?
I am 20 weeks pregnant today!
So far since the very beginning of pregnancy I've had little to NO interest in sex. I thought the libido would kick in during the second trimester- but here I am at 20 weeks and NOTHING! I TRY to have interest- you know the "more you get it the more you want it" theory.. well so far still not really wanting it! This is such a HUGE change from what me and hubby's sex life used to be! Even before TTC! We thought going 2 days without was a long time! Now.. it's MAYBE 1 time per week- and that's if I FORCE myself to!!! I have read that some women just never get that increase in libido- while others (like meghan!- could never seem to get enough! ha ha) so- in your experiences- when- if at all did your sex drive start to increase during pregnancy?
Hi Lisa,
When I thought mine had kicked in we started bd'ing and I was so uncomfortable and felt so turned off by my big belly and boobs! I just really cant wait to have sex and enjoy it like before! So dont worry if you dont have much of a sex drive because I really dont either!
Liane, I want to have those dreams! Lucky girl!
When I thought mine had kicked in we started bd'ing and I was so uncomfortable and felt so turned off by my big belly and boobs! I just really cant wait to have sex and enjoy it like before! So dont worry if you dont have much of a sex drive because I really dont either!
Liane, I want to have those dreams! Lucky girl!
Actually last night DH and I were talking and that is one thing we are both looking forward to is having sex normally again! Lately it has been like once sometimes twice a week but that is it and of course it either has to be side by side or doggy style neither of which I love.... I just wish I could do my favorite positions again but with the big belly that doesnt work...soon enough I guess!!
not to burst ur bubble but ur about to be parents LOL for the next like well... forever, sex is going to be different. they say its like sex for the first time again. I however would so give up sex for a baby... thats how you KNOW im dying to be a mother. because i love my sex. lmao. idk why but i think since im already a big girl, the whole big belly and boobs thing, im used to that!! haha i doubt much will change when im pregnant until i really start to get HUGE, then i could see myself not wanting it. and idk im NOT looking forward to no sex for 6 weeks after the baby and im NOT looking forward to how different everythings going to be, and feel... my friend heather said they must have taken her sex organs when the baby came out because its never felt as good to her ever since....
yikes.. LOL
yikes.. LOL
Good sex comes back after the baby...it just takes like 6 months. It's hard with the sleep deprivation and all. Once my son started sleeping through the night and we were able to get several weeks of good sleep again, all bets were off. I was a little scared since I had a bad cut down there but I swear once you get back on that bike...it like you never even had a baby...LOL
thats good news cuz im still very young and i dont want the sex to change lol. unless it changes for the better... i wonder if by a man becoming a father and learning to be more patient if they will learn to be more patient lovers HAHA my DH is perfect dont get me wrong, but who wouldnt mind some patience... idk i think i would. but god i dont want to not have sex for 6 weeks are you kidding me... that sucks
It may not be 6 weeks..my best friend had a perfect delivery. She said she felt like she was good to go after 4 weeks....and she did no problem. For me and my hubby it took like 10 weeks because I had a bad cut and it got infected. So I was on hard core antibiotics forever. Once it was all healed up down there it was totally fine.
Actually for me it isn't that I dont feel unsexy or anything like that because I am big now it is just the fact that it feels so uncomfortable and it is extremely hard to find positions that actually work. I find there are positions where we are both afraid of squishing the babies and that makes it tough! I was exactly like you Jen and thought OMG how will I make it without any sex. I honestly loved sex and wanted it every single day. It must be the hormones because since I got pregnant that went way out the door!! lol I do say though that if I was still able to do my favorite position (DH on top...he is very good at that lol) that things would probably be different. I can't wait until we can get back on the horse again...so to speak lol!!!
im weird tho cuz sometimes i want it like every day of the week and other times i dont want it at all! lol especially rite before AF comes, im irritable and bloated and emotional and annoyed and the LAST thing i want is sex... well thats just lately, sometimes befor AF i didnt even get that many symptoms and would still be wanting sex sometimes a lot more than usual. lol. but then again sometimes before AF i dont even care to have it! lol. so yea im def. a woman and am never the same, always changing and never know what i want. bless my DH's heart for putting up with me and loving me so much =) im lucky haha
I was on activity restriction during first trimester and my sexdrive never returned after that.
The 6 weeks of no-sex restriction after birth was EXCRUTIATING!!!! Once I got the all-clear at 6 weeks, I jumped hubby THAT NIGHT...
But, sadly, breastfeeding diminishes your drive. So, I wasn't too interested in it for the first 6 months after.
The 6 weeks of no-sex restriction after birth was EXCRUTIATING!!!! Once I got the all-clear at 6 weeks, I jumped hubby THAT NIGHT...
But, sadly, breastfeeding diminishes your drive. So, I wasn't too interested in it for the first 6 months after.
Thanks ladies,
I was really really hoping that I would be one of those women that the sex drive increased! ha ha!
But... it appears that as for right now... that's not going to happen :( Dh has been good about things- He's actually been waaay to tired anyways- atleast that's what he says, but I guess I have to believe him on that one since I know how hard he is working at both his job AND building the house! Poor guy lays down and within a min he's snoring! I still hopes the libido kicks in soon...as I said before- this is just sooooo not me! I just want to feel more "normal!"
I was really really hoping that I would be one of those women that the sex drive increased! ha ha!
But... it appears that as for right now... that's not going to happen :( Dh has been good about things- He's actually been waaay to tired anyways- atleast that's what he says, but I guess I have to believe him on that one since I know how hard he is working at both his job AND building the house! Poor guy lays down and within a min he's snoring! I still hopes the libido kicks in soon...as I said before- this is just sooooo not me! I just want to feel more "normal!"
ha ha yeah I know there is no more "normal" lol
This is just so much different than the first pregnancy- with that pregnancy I think don't think my sex drive decreased AT ALL! Granted- that pregnancy only lasted about 10 weeks, but it just seems like from day 1 with this pregnancy I've had ZERO interest. :(
This is just so much different than the first pregnancy- with that pregnancy I think don't think my sex drive decreased AT ALL! Granted- that pregnancy only lasted about 10 weeks, but it just seems like from day 1 with this pregnancy I've had ZERO interest. :(
August 30, 2008