Do they only specialize in ifv? I have done the clomid for 4 months and had an ectopic. I just read that it can cost 2-3 hundred dollars for each iui that is done. I am so worried that dh is not going to go through with this. We don't have that kind of money to go toward making a baby.
What to expect on firtst time visit to the RE?
June 14, 2008
I missed my 1st appt, but I am going on the 26, and was just curious as to what will take place on this visit? Also does anyone know what they might want to do to help us become pg? I have one good tube(right) and both ovaries are good. I still am o from the left, and am not having any luck becomming pg.
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No they don't only specialize in IVF. :O) In fact they will usually start with the least intrusive 1st and move up from there. IVF is usually the last thing they try unless the woman is older. I have done 3 rounds of clomid and one IUI with meds and had to stop due to cysts this month. I spoke to my dr. about when to start thinking about IVF if I was going to get cysts after the injections and she said she would NOT want to move to that after only one round of injections. You can discuss your financial constraints and see what plan might work for you but usually IUI would be the next step if you have already done the clomid. Some insurance companies help, I have been very lucky with mine so far. Look into yours if you have health insurance.
The first visit is just a consult where he/she will ask you about your history and discuss options. I am on my 2nd RE and notice big differences in the procedures and they way they go about them. My first RE was all about the $$$$ and wanted to go right to IVF which of course my ins. didnt cover and then my 2nd RE was more about meds and monitoring, so I guess everyones experience differs. Good Luck.
I definitely think you should go to the apt and see what they say. I love my Dr. and felt so much better after working with her and I have read on here others who were so happy they took that step. I also read about others who do the meds/ injections and timed intercourse at home and no IUI. Good luck!!
I will, but I think I will also ttc naturally too. My DH said that oue insurance covers up to 4,000 of fertility treatment. I am not sure if that is good or not. I heard that the cost on just an iui can be 2-3 hundred dollars. Thats a lot for each month out of poket, and DH said if thats how much we would have to pay then we can not do it. That hurts=(
Chas if insurance covers up to 4,000 that is great!!!! my insurance covers a little less than that and I have done several office visits with the doctor, many, many blood tests, ultrasounds, meds and 2 IUI's (they do and IUI twice, two days in a row after the Ovidrel) and have paid like a total of $50 and I really think it was less than that-- A copay for the initial office visit and then $15 for each RX. My clomid that I used before coming to the fertility specialist cost more than this. You should be excited!!!! Things might be different where you are, I'm in FL but it shouldn't be too different. I paid nothing in the office after the two IUIs. :O) Good luck!!!!
I'm on cd16 and not taking any meds b/c I have 3 cysts from the last cycle of Follistim. I have been ttc for over a year. I started acupuncture but it is too soon to know if it is helping physically but definitely helping mentally. If anything it helps me to feel that I am able to do something to help when I can't do the meds and it definitely relaxes me. :O)
All this insurance and $ stuff can get confusing b/c even when I call to try to find out about cost the insurance company can't seem to give me a straight answer but they are sending me what they have paid so far so I can see what is left. The office manager at the fertility office might be more helpful b/c she knows what many of the different insurance companies will cover. I have Vista, two friends have Humana and United. They had to pay more out of pocket but still had a lot covered.
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All this insurance and $ stuff can get confusing b/c even when I call to try to find out about cost the insurance company can't seem to give me a straight answer but they are sending me what they have paid so far so I can see what is left. The office manager at the fertility office might be more helpful b/c she knows what many of the different insurance companies will cover. I have Vista, two friends have Humana and United. They had to pay more out of pocket but still had a lot covered.
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Chas,
My DH was very uncomfortable about all this in the beginning. He wanted us to have a baby the "natural" way. He even made little comments when we met with the Dr. which made me quite upset b/c I didn't want her to think I was the only one that wanted this. When she met me alone in the room to do an exam (I was due for my annual pap) she told me that he would warm up to all this and she was right. He really has become much more supportive. He also realizes that it isn't just us, that others are going through all this too. He still isn't keen on the idea if the IUIs don't work we may eventually have to do IVF, he feels that is just way to unnatural but at least he listens to what I have to say about it. Hopefully we won't ever have to get to that and the IUIs will work for us.Good luck, I hope your DH gives you the support you so desperately need (we can't do this all alone) and helps you to feel more comfortable. :O)
My DH was very uncomfortable about all this in the beginning. He wanted us to have a baby the "natural" way. He even made little comments when we met with the Dr. which made me quite upset b/c I didn't want her to think I was the only one that wanted this. When she met me alone in the room to do an exam (I was due for my annual pap) she told me that he would warm up to all this and she was right. He really has become much more supportive. He also realizes that it isn't just us, that others are going through all this too. He still isn't keen on the idea if the IUIs don't work we may eventually have to do IVF, he feels that is just way to unnatural but at least he listens to what I have to say about it. Hopefully we won't ever have to get to that and the IUIs will work for us.Good luck, I hope your DH gives you the support you so desperately need (we can't do this all alone) and helps you to feel more comfortable. :O)
Thank you both so much for listenting and helping me out with this battle. Every day of every week I wake up poss and then something happens. Weather it is another sil pg, or dh is busy and does not even notice the real reason behind my sadness. I kinda said something last night, but afterwards he was just quiet for the rest of the night. He did not comment on anything really. He thinks that i am going to not be supportive towards his brother or something. I am it is just sad to me that what we had was stolen from us at 2 months. Some people who have never gone through this thinks you shou move on, or just be happy, but it is not easy and that is what upsets me. Is when poeple just don't get it, but think that by commenting on it will make it go away. I am very much looking forward to this new step in our path of ttc and I will stay poss that our time is around the corner. Thank you both again so much.
No problem Chas....I know how it is, my brother and his GF have 3 kids, my niece is 6 and my nephews are twins and they are going to be 3 this year. They have no idea what they have, and I am not happy for them having kids at all. They always leave their kids with my mom, and she will never say no because if she does, his GF tells my mom she can never see the kids again, so my mom is scared of them. I know hate is a strong word, but I HATE them....they need to realize that having a child is a blessing...
sorry, I just had to vent!!
sorry, I just had to vent!!
Vent away honey! Look at me thats all I have been doing since I came back. I have a bil that is that way other then the threatening. He just knows how to win over his mom and she plays into it then complains to the other brothers/fam. She should just tell him. BOW(but oh well) I have one boy that is three and I am blessed day in and day out that he is here. I got pg on bc and and happy I did. I look at how much work we have to put in for having a baby when three years ago we just got drunk and had sex. Crazy on how much life changes.
Life does change...I never thought I would have to go through this at all, and here we are on our 3rd iui in 3 months. It has been a rough road for us, we have been ttc #1 for 2 years now, and every month when AF arrives I hate it, I get so depressed. I really, reallly hope this is it for us this month, because if it doesn't happen, then we are going to taka break from medication for about 3 months, and try naturally and if I am not pg by Oct. then we will go back to the RE.
I wanted to take a break, but a part of me feels like the one time I try a break form it I would miss my chance, and that scares me. I don't hate others that have all the luck of things happening perfectly for them, but I hate always being around it. It is a constant reminder to me of what we have to go through in order to get there. I hope that this is your month too, and mine aswell.
We are not going to take a break from trying naturally, just going to let my body and mind rest for a few months without meds. You are right, it is a constant reminder, I have 3 girls at work that just had babies 2 in April and 1 in May, another girl at work is 3 months pg, I play competitive softball and 2 girls on my team are pg and a guys GF on my husbands softbal team is pg. and I see these people all the time, and I just get so frustrated because we are so ready for a child.
I just got some u/s pics of my bils baby and I want to cry. I am mad at myself for letting it bother me, but I also can not control my emotions. I know our time and chance will come, but it still hurts now. I hate that my chance was taken from me and that we have to go through so much to get there, but I am just hoping it will happen sooner than later. So sorry you have to go through so much as well. Please feel as though you can vent and confide in me if you need.
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June 14, 2008
sounds like you might have done an HSG since you know that you have one good tube and good ovaries. Most likely your RE will interview you and DH to find out about your history and family history then she/he will order some tests if needed and most likely lots of blood tests. Your DH will also need to have his sperm checked if he hasn't done that yet. Depending on all the results you will meet again and come up with a plan for you. Everyone is different so your plan will be specific for you. I know of three other friends who are doing fertility treatments and we all had different treatments. You may start with something like Clomid or go right to injections. Some of your plan will also be related to your age. Lots of luck!!!!!