what fun

July 03, 2008

I went in for an u/s this morning since I am still not bleeding, I guess it can take weeks and weeks to start miscarrying on your own. Its been more than 2 weeks already!

The ultrasound showed an empty sac, just like 2 weeks ago as well as a cyst on my left ovary that is 25mm big (the baby sac was only 15mm!! Yikes).

Anyway, I asked him why he wouldn’t give me a D&C and he said - “you can opt for that if you want” so it was the nurse that chose to tell me I couldnt have one. That little B****!!! We talked about it for awhile and I just don’t know what to do. The sac is pretty small so a D&C isnt really necessary and I may bleed afterward for a day or 2 (maybe).

He gave me a script for these pills that he will insert inside me that force my uterus to contract and expel the sac but I cant be at work cuz he said that for 12-24 hours its very painful and that I will be able to go back the next day but I wont feel great. For about a week I should feel like you do with a very heavy period. GREAT! Just what I want, contractions and a heavy period. Geeze......

The other option is to wait it out and let my body do its thing - wait for the cyst to go down and then the pregnancy should miscarry but that could take weeks and I would rather just get on with my life.

Thought I’d let cha all know what the latest is - I will either have the D&C or the pill insertion on Monday night or Tuesday next week.

July 03, 2008

I'm so sorry Chels. I really am.

July 03, 2008

Hi Chels- I am so sorry, I can imagine both options will be painful not only physically and emotionally. I am always praying for you, you are a wonderful person. I cannot tell you what to do..I know you will make the right decision :)

We are here for you to help you thru

July 03, 2008

Chels,

Thinking about you. It's not an easy decision to make. HUGS.

July 03, 2008

OMG Chels I am So Sorry Babe!!! Keeping you in my prayers!

July 03, 2008

Aww Chels, I'm sorry! I'll be thinking about you!

July 03, 2008

Chelsea, I am soo sorry. You are the last person that deserves to go thru this..and if anything, I hope it makes you stronger. ((HUGS)) Chels..we are all here for you!

July 03, 2008

so sorry that you have to go thorugh this chels..i would want to get it over with too take care you and family are in my prayers

July 03, 2008

Chels, My heart goes out to you. . it's such a tough decision . . . thinking of you . .

July 03, 2008

Hi Chels i am so sorry that you are going through all of this.

I have had both done i had a d&c in December and i had no bleeding afterwards which i thought was strange but my doctor said some women dont bleed afterwards. I had the pills in May that i had to insert myself at home well my dh did it for me as i couldnt face doing it myself i inserted four one night before i went to bed and the pain was bad during the night and i had alot of bleeding and then 24hours later i had to insert the other four the pain wasnt so bad that night i bled for about a week kind of heavy but i got my period back a bit faster this time it was about five weeks later.

Its a tough decision to make and to be honest i wouldnt know which one to choose again if i was in the same situation the only thing about the pills is if you dont pass out all the tissue you may have to have a d&c done.

If you need any questions answered about any of the two options please dont hesitate to ask me.
Use_it
KEM

July 03, 2008

Ches...so sorry to hear.

July 03, 2008

Chels I had those pills inserted, I had one empty sac to pass as I already lost the baby and I had another sac and baby to lose. After getting the pills inserted the miscarriage was over in 3 hours. And I prepared for the absolute worst and loaded up on pain pills. It was much LESS painful then I thought. Not to say it didn't hurt but no more than a brutal period. And why have a D&C? Why have surgery if you don't need to? It take your body longer to recover reproductively after a D&C then a natural miscarriage.

July 03, 2008

Hey Chels. So sorry to hear all of what you are going through. I was so hoping to hear different news. I really don't understand why the nurse would take it upon herself to deliver incorrect information. I think your doc should know about that. Anyway, I know that this would be a tough decision to make and I just wanted to say that you are in my thoughts. Sending you some strength to get you through this tough time!

July 03, 2008

So sorry Chels...keeping you in my thoughts & prayers! Is the cyst what's keeping the MC from happening natural?

July 03, 2008

im just worried that with my wonderful luck lately the doc will end up poking a hole in my uterus and then i will need to strangle him or somthing!

I just want ot deal with the crappy pregnancy things instead of dealing with this...... ugggg!

July 03, 2008

Im so sorry Chels. I went through this when I was 10 weeks, but the baby was measuring at 6 weeks (heart started and stopped).

My OB pushed me to take the pills and not do the D&C. She said I had a tilted uterus and it was "safer" to do the pills. Well, I needed two rounds of it - it was really implanted well and developing. You definilty cannot be at work and taking them. You bleed far more thn a regular period and I had 10 weeks of tissue passing, it was a lot needless to say. Let me know if you have any ?'s about it. I know how hard this is for you.

July 03, 2008

I do hear ya! It's NOT fun. Honestly and I think any doctor would tell you that it's a lot better for you to do this naturally then to have a D&C. And you won't have to wait as long to start trying again.

July 03, 2008

I had a friend who had to take the pills, I stayed at her house with her to take care of her son while she went through it..it lasted for about 6 hours. Then she had some bleeding on and off for a few weeks. She has been fine since.

July 06, 2008

Hi Chels just checking in to see how you are doing? I am thinking of you...

July 06, 2008

Me too Chels. Hope you are doing okay inspite of all this...((HUGS))

July 07, 2008

i was fine and then i wasnt so i spose it will come and go. Im gonna make another post cuz i have so much to complain and vent about - lol!

Thanks for thinking of me!!

I love your picture kelli!!!! Just gorgeous!!!

July 07, 2008

(((hug))

Still praying for you

July 07, 2008

Oh my gosh, Chels. I'm SO sorry to read this! I had no idea, as I haven't been visiting this board very often.

Hang in there. If it's any consolation, at least you know you can get pregnant. All the best to you.

Christine

July 07, 2008

Chels,

I'm sorry that you had a mean and horrible NURSE!!!! Made me so mad! Hope your doing well and again I'm sorry!

July 07, 2008

Wow, Chels!!! I'm sooo sorry you are going through all this. It sounds like there are several others above that have some experience and can share it with you. You are really in a tough spot to make this decision, what does DH say about the choices?

*****HUGS******

July 08, 2008

Chels so sorry you are having to go thru this. Praying its all over soon for you. Your in my thoughts (((HUGZ)))

July 09, 2008

Wanted to update everyone without posting new again about this.

I chose to go with the pills then the D&C and then back to the pills. I just couldnt choose! It was like I wanted to move on with my life and be done with the pregnancy but also felt so sad that it was then gonna really be over, ya know?

My body never started cramping or bleeding and it has been long enough so I called to schedule the D&C and the nurse scared me with all the “well, you know that its not really necessary and the pills will work just fine and that there is always the possibility of scar tissue that could cause further fertility issues....” so I was a little freaked out and said I would come in with the pills. I went in on Monday after work at 5 they were inserted and by 8 or 9 in was bleeding a little and cramping a lot even after taking the percocet they gave me. The pain intensified and continued into the night, DH and I got little sleep cuz of the pain. At about 3am I took more pain stuff and got the heating pad. At 9 I took the kids to summer school but went to the bathroom b4 hand. I passed something the size of the palm of my hand and it was solid and weird. Yesterday I was off of work and just hung out and was in a percocet induced coma. Today the bleeding is less, more like a period.

Thought I would share my experience and thank you all for being so supportive and kind to me. Much love to you all!!

July 09, 2008

Chels So Sorry to hear that.........But at Least now you can try Again and you are able to move on. We Love you!!! I will be praying for you!

July 09, 2008

Aww Chels, I hope you are feeling better today

= )

July 09, 2008

Chels i am so sorry hun...but now maybe you will get finality and can move on ....love ya chels!!
Winter
KAN

July 09, 2008

I am glad that the bleeding is more like AF. Hopefully, it will go away soon.
Use_it
KEM

July 09, 2008

I know that must have been hard but at least now you can move forward! Hopefully all the pain will be gone soon!

July 09, 2008

I went through the same thing. My bleeding slowed down after a few days, but i spotted for a about two weeks after that. Then, i got a period about 6 weeks later. I didnt get much sleep through it. I hope you feel a little better everyday. xo

July 09, 2008

Thinking of you and sending BIG BIG HUGS!!!!!

July 10, 2008

Wishing you a speedy recovery! Big hugs to you and I hope you start to feel better real soon! I am sorry that you had to go through all of this! Take care Chels!

July 10, 2008

Sending you ((BIG HUGS)) Chels

July 10, 2008

Sending you loads of love Chels. Hang in there!

July 10, 2008

Hi Chels sorry that it was a tough decision for you to have to make i know how you felt. The bleeding will only last as long as a normal period and then you will get your regular period about five to six weeks afterwards.

Please know i am thinking of you and i hope you start to feel better soon.

July 10, 2008

Chels, I hope you are feeling better soon. Sounds like those pills worked fast- and for that Im greatful- I didnt want you to suffer any longer.

Im sorry this happend, Im glad you are ready to move on, and I belive that this happend for a reason- and that you will be getting a blessing very soon..

((((((((Hug)))))))

July 10, 2008

Chels..my heart just aches for you. You should have never had to go thru this. I am so glad you have a loving hubby who is there for you thru out this. I hope things get brighter in the near future and you are feeling well again.

Much luv!

July 10, 2008

thx everyone - for whatever reason i am handling this way better than i ever expected. I am sad that this happened, obviously, but i am ready to move on with my life and try to stop obsessing about all of this TTC. I have spent the last year of my life worring, being angry, taking injections and spending so much time at the doc its ridiculous. Now i am ready to enjoy my life and stop forgetting that i am already a parent to wonderful children that deserve their mama there in their life and not stressin and being sad all the time. They have been so patient, understanding and unbelievable comforting thru all of this past year its un-real. Its time to stop with all of this and calm down to enjoy what i have. I still want to have a child and we will still go thru some testing and DH has a appt at a urologist but i just dont want to obsess and be monitored all the time. Since i ovulate on my own maybe i will try some Clomid or Femera?

Thx for listening and being there for me!!!

July 10, 2008

You are strong, and a wonderful mother- IM glad to hear your new attitude- its definately inspiring!

YOU GO GIRL!

July 10, 2008

Im glad you are feeling okay. You are a great mother. That is what got me through my m/c. Was knowing how much my son needed me and how much I already had.

July 11, 2008

Wow Chels you never stop amazing me with your strength and positive attitude! Your children and DH are lucky to have such a wonderful person in their life and I'm sure you feel the same about them.

:o) Lots of luck to you!!
Woman_2
BP

July 11, 2008

While I'm so sorry for what you're going through, I'm so inspired by your positive attitude. It's truly inspirational.

July 11, 2008

i really dont have a positive attitude but when i look at those kids i get all goofy and happy that its hard to think bad stuff! LOL!

July 14, 2008

Chels I am just back from a vacation last week & wanted to check in with you...glad that things went ok, considering, & hoping that this will bring closure for you-sounds like it already has :) Glad that you are feeling better!

July 14, 2008

chels, im sorry to hear about what youve been thru lately. i hope everything is getting better for you.
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