The things people Say!!!

Lol..great post. We told people that we quit trying b/c we were so sick of people sticking their nose where it didn't belong. Well, now that we are open to people knowing we are prego with #2...they are all like..."see, told you it would happen when you quit trying". Ah ha...if they only knew it was IVF!!! LOL

When dh and I were ttc we always heard, "So??? Anything in there yet??" That really bothered me.

LOL Kelli!!! That is the greatest thing I have ever heard! I think I will have to try that!

Sar, I am with you on that one!

LOL, if I could do it over again..we wouldn't have ever told anyone we were ttc...but our ds was so easy..we never thought it'd be an issue.

My DH's very outspoken aunt butted in when I was venting to my MIL and said "stress causes infertility, you know?" I said "no it dosn't, infertility causes stress, but you wouldn't know both your kids were surprises."

The look on her face was priceless. I wish I had a camera!

Lol... that is awesome! I love that respose! "Stress causes infertilty" blah, blah, blah.

How about this one...

"If you can't afford a fertility monitor, how do you think you are going to be able to afford kids?!?!"

Just because we don't have an extra $200.00 laying around doesn't mean we won't be good parents!!

Agreed. I hate it when someone says something like that. It doesn't even have to be fertility related... for example I have heard the same thing about going out for dinner. We only eat out every so often because it is getting so expensive!

Statement: "I know why you haven't gotten pregnant yet, you are overweight."

Response: "Big girls deserve baby bellies too!"

Statement: "Being overweight causes a lot of problems... good thing you haven't gotten pregnant yet. Maybe wait until you lose some weight."

Response: "Size doesn't determine the type of mother I will be!"

Statement: "I know why you haven't gotten pregnant yet, you are overweight."

Response: "Big girls deserve baby bellies too!"

Statement: "Being overweight causes a lot of problems... good thing you haven't gotten pregnant yet. Maybe wait until you lose some weight."

Response: "Size doesn't determine the type of mother I will be!"

Statement: "Just relax. It will happen."

Response: "Infertility is not a state of mind!"

LOL i agree w/ Sar. ppl are now asking me if im pregnant yet and it's only been 2 months!! I guess i should of kept my mouth shut when we were ttc.

No one knew we were even trying or I had PCOS. I just told everyone we were not ready as yet. I would love 10 babies in 1 shot with fertility drugs!

oh wanna, I am so sorry that people have said things like that to you. People don't realize the power of their words and how deep they can cut. I think you will be beautiful when pregnant and a beautiful mother. Another thing is that when you already have extra weight you don't have to gain as much during pregnany... it will be all baby!

Same thing applies for you Jilly... don't let people cut you down!

Good point Rachel. I will be a great mother, we all will. We've tried so hard for this, we have a respect for TTC and for our children that not everyone gets to have.

Ya, as special as babies are to everyone, no one appreciates them more than a mother who has been waiting so long!

Ohh honey, I hear you! My hubby and I started trying right away after we got married, we were only 21 but I knew I had irregular cycles (at the time I didnt know why). All I got from my family was "Ohh your too young" and "just live your life first" then 4 years went by and then we got "when are you going to have kids?" "and then we went through countless cycles of fertility treatments and have a beautiful 2 year old boy now, and now I get the "whens baby #2 coming" We cant really do much more treatment as we are financially not ready, and may never be, now I am gettng the "ohh you cant just have one" "they will be lonly" Now I am hurt because I wonder is that true? But my hands are tied, I cant just have a baby at the droop of a hat! SO I feel all your pain, people think that if you have one, the pain goes away....I can tell you it has not, of course its not as bad, but I am still hurting :-(

This is a cute post- and yes people say some rediculous things. Id like to think that all of us will be so compassionate and caring towards others because of all we have gone through.

Whenever I hear that someone is trying or pregnant or whatever, I always take time to think of what to say or whatever so I never am one of those offensive people!

Laura, I know a family that only has one. They are so greatful for her every day and she doesn't feel sorry for herself because she has friends and cousins. I would give anything to have my BFP and a beautiful baby. It is such a blessing even if you only get one. I understand about the finances... it is very hard. One thing to keep in mind... if you are open to it is adoption. This is something you could do years down the road if you feel your first is getting too lonely. In the meantime I hope that you will get your BFP very soon without all the treatments. Don't lose hope!! Keep trying!!! ~~~Baby Dust~~~

The one thing I regret was telling everyone we are TTC. We were just so excited to begin and thought it would happen quick. I wish I had kept my mouth shut now. We are about to start Clomid in Dec after we get off our TTC break. DH told his family that and their response was "Fertility drugs!!! You guys are going to end up with 6 babies! You should just let it happen naturally!"

I told them I am 25 yrs old and we have been trying ACTIVELY for 11 months now. I don't think a boost from Clomid will hurt us at all...I wish they would just either be supportive or mind their own business.

One of DH's cousin who just graduated high school and has "been around the block" multiple times announced she was preggo 2 months ago. One of our other cousins has been having fertility problems for 6 yrs after a loss of a tube from an EP pregnancy. I was talking to our aunt about it and I said "Can you imagine how Heather and I feel that Sarah gets preggo at the drop of a hat and we have to work so hard at it"

My aunts response was "Well, I feel bad for Heather b/c she is really having problems but I don't feel bad for you yet, your just trying to hard"

She didn't mean anything by it but I had to walk away so no one could see me cry. IT hurt so much.

Agh- how rude and hurtful. And yes when you are desperately ttc, it seems like pregnancies pop up all over the place around you and each one stings differently. Sorry that happend- HOW RUDE!

What a great post. We decided not to tell anyone because we didn't want the constant questions. My dh and I will celebrate our 10 yr anniversary on Aug 1 so we always get the "don't you think you have waited long enough" or "wow, you have been married 10 years and have no kids! Is there something wrong?" People are so rude!

This is my FAVORITE though. I had surgery last week and at my preop the nurse was asking all these question. (I had been waiting 31/2 hrs to be pre-admitted so I was already bothered). One of the questions was have you ever smoked? How much? How long? I had smoked but quit 3 yrs ago. The nurse then says "You know, smoking can cause infertility." I responded saying well yes, but I quit 3 years ago. She says "right but all those years of smoking could be causing your problems now." I was offended and a little irritated to say the least. This nurse had no idea what I had been going through and didn't know any of my history. So I responded by saying "really!? Heroin addicts and crack whores seem to have no problem getting pregnant. You would think smoking crack or shooting heroin would have more of an effect on fertility than the cigarettes I smoked 3 years ago!" She looked stunned and said "Ok, well lets move on" and she finished asking me the questions. I probably wouldn't have lost it like that if I hadn't had to wait so long to get pre-admited but I just hate when people make comments and stick their nose where it doesn't belong!

Great post! I have one that really isn't TTC- but related to pregnancy-

Last summer (2007) my husband and I had a miscarriage that resulted in D & C. I found out at 11 1/2 weeks that the baby died at 9 weeks...

Of course at that time I was pretty niave (sp?) and thought pregnany=healthy baby... boy was I wrong! anyways... we pretty much told everybody we were expecting- when we lost the baby sooooo many peopel were like " oh well.. stuff like that happens- good thing you are so young". as if 24 was THAT young! I mean even if a 15 year old lost a baby I think that would be inappropriate to say! a baby is a baby! regardless of trhe mother's age! ugh... and then a co-worker asked me if my drinking caused the miscarriage! I had to really laugh at this one- because I HARDLY drink!! This person saw me leaving a grocery/liquor store a few weeks before the D & C with a couple cases of beer- I was picking up the beer for HUGE bonfire we were hosting- ( I also had a 12 pack of sprite and some bottled water in the cart for myself to drink!!!!)