Hi Liane, I am doing exactly the same thing as Hope did. I jus told my very close frd, who is also trying to conceive, otherwise even my mom does know abt my trying.
Telling people....
October 03, 2007
Hi Girls. I was just wondering if any of you had told your family members or friends that you are trying to conceive and about what you are going through right now. Some people try and conceive and hope that it will be a surprise while others tell everyone that they are trying. I was just wondering how you all went about this and the reasons why.
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The reason I am asking is because I would love to post of picture of my husband and I but I am worried that someone may find this site and realize that it is me. I have a couple of close friends that know about what is going on and my mom but other than that know one knows. My mother and father in law are completely clueless and I don't want them to find out. It is hard enough as it is without having people always ask how things are going. Plus my mother in law doesn't understand stuff like this because she had no troubles getting pregnant at all. She actually does not believe in birthcontrol so she already criticized me for that. She would probably tell me that I wouldn't have these problems if I hadn't gone on the pill. It makes me feel better to know that I am not the only one keeping this a secret.
I kept it a secret from everyone but my sister until a couple of months ago. I agree that there can be additional pressure...if you let it get to you. Otherwise, opening up to my mom has helped a lot. I learned that she, too, had trouble conceiving, and it took her about a year to conceive both my sister and I...which actually relieved pressure.
Me on the other hand, well a lot of our friends know. This was before my doctors visit and before I found out I had PCOS. Once I found out, well then I wish some of them didnt know, because now they wonder whats taking so long. I told them im just having a harder time than most people getting pregnant but it will happen in time, and that im very positive that it will happen. Some also know im on meds, but not all. Just a few. My parents know a little of whats going on and that I have PCOS, because well I work for them, and had to come here after my doctors appt. and I had been balling my eyes out. They also know im on meds, and are very supportive. As for my husbands parents, well im not sure what my father in law knows, but im sure its some, because he is always super sweeter to me now, and as for my mother in law (a nurse), who has to be one of the kindess people I know, well she def. knows a lot going on.
My husband was at lunch with her the day I found out I had tiny cysts (and at that time just thought cysts). She called me later that day to check on me and I filled her in. Then later that night I looked at my chart thing and saw Polycystic Ovaries, and all my doc said to me was tiny cysts (yeah same thing), then thats when I feel apart.
She now knows, because I was talking with one of our cousins about it when they visited, who also had a hard time getting pregnant, and was actually told she wouldnt be able to, yeah they have a 3 year old now. Anyways she said something to my mother in law, which then said something to my husband. He didnt really want to have that convo with his mom...haha. Anyways she now knows its something more serious then just a cyst. Anyways so a good amount of our family and friends know, but I love having there support, and then again at times hate it, because they dont know exactly what to say, because none of them are in my shoes, and it sucks!!
Anyways thats my story on who all knows.
My advice is if you are going to tell someone, make sure they will understand or try to understand what you are going through, because a lot of people wont, and might try and say, oh well 6 months isnt even long, give it time. That is the worse thing to hear, especially when you find out, that you havent ovulated at all, it gets pretty frustrating, and honestly thats now how I have picked who my true friends really are. Best wishes to all you great ladies.
Atleast we all have each other...right?
*B*A*B*Y*D*U*S*T*
*S*T*I*C*K*Y**G*L*U*E*
My husband was at lunch with her the day I found out I had tiny cysts (and at that time just thought cysts). She called me later that day to check on me and I filled her in. Then later that night I looked at my chart thing and saw Polycystic Ovaries, and all my doc said to me was tiny cysts (yeah same thing), then thats when I feel apart.
She now knows, because I was talking with one of our cousins about it when they visited, who also had a hard time getting pregnant, and was actually told she wouldnt be able to, yeah they have a 3 year old now. Anyways she said something to my mother in law, which then said something to my husband. He didnt really want to have that convo with his mom...haha. Anyways she now knows its something more serious then just a cyst. Anyways so a good amount of our family and friends know, but I love having there support, and then again at times hate it, because they dont know exactly what to say, because none of them are in my shoes, and it sucks!!
Anyways thats my story on who all knows.
My advice is if you are going to tell someone, make sure they will understand or try to understand what you are going through, because a lot of people wont, and might try and say, oh well 6 months isnt even long, give it time. That is the worse thing to hear, especially when you find out, that you havent ovulated at all, it gets pretty frustrating, and honestly thats now how I have picked who my true friends really are. Best wishes to all you great ladies.
Atleast we all have each other...right?
*B*A*B*Y*D*U*S*T*
*S*T*I*C*K*Y**G*L*U*E*
Hi Liane!
Only my in-laws knew that we have been trying for a long time...but with friends and other families, not until just last summer when we were just so desperate on conceiving. We just thought we needed more prayers and support. Even my mom's bible study group prayed for us, and it's just amazing how people really do pray for you. :-)
Only my in-laws knew that we have been trying for a long time...but with friends and other families, not until just last summer when we were just so desperate on conceiving. We just thought we needed more prayers and support. Even my mom's bible study group prayed for us, and it's just amazing how people really do pray for you. :-)
Hi liane
the only person that knows is my mum because I tottaly trust her not to tell any one shes there to listen to me all the time and really tries to be supportive and at least with only her knowing I dont have everyone asking me how things are going when they are mabye not going so well.
So I always have a shoulder to cry on if I need it and I'm not embaressed to explain anything to her because shes my mum.
I only hope I'm as much of a great mum as she is to me when the time comes.
I think this way works best for me becuse I have her and all you great girls for help and support,which keeps me smiling.
It's up to each individual who they wish to tell but for me you girls and my mum are just enough.
Kayley X :)
the only person that knows is my mum because I tottaly trust her not to tell any one shes there to listen to me all the time and really tries to be supportive and at least with only her knowing I dont have everyone asking me how things are going when they are mabye not going so well.
So I always have a shoulder to cry on if I need it and I'm not embaressed to explain anything to her because shes my mum.
I only hope I'm as much of a great mum as she is to me when the time comes.
I think this way works best for me becuse I have her and all you great girls for help and support,which keeps me smiling.
It's up to each individual who they wish to tell but for me you girls and my mum are just enough.
Kayley X :)
I was like you Liane wondering if anyone else was going through this.I see now it is, I have not told anyone myself I am just keeping it all in y husband and I have a 4year old daughter and we want another so she can have someone to play with.We have been trying since March of this year and still have had no success. I wish you all the very very best and hopefully we will all have a child real soon!!
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October 03, 2007