Telling people....

Hi Liane, I didnt tell anyone I was trying because I did not want everyone in family to know I have PCOS. I just pretended as if I am very happy and carefree without children. But the truth is I used to cry every other day at home. I just kept telling the world that I am not ready when I was actually so desperate. I know its so hypocrytic. But I did not know what else to do to not make my family worry about me.

Hi Liane, I am doing exactly the same thing as Hope did. I jus told my very close frd, who is also trying to conceive, otherwise even my mom does know abt my trying.

The reason I am asking is because I would love to post of picture of my husband and I but I am worried that someone may find this site and realize that it is me. I have a couple of close friends that know about what is going on and my mom but other than that know one knows. My mother and father in law are completely clueless and I don't want them to find out. It is hard enough as it is without having people always ask how things are going. Plus my mother in law doesn't understand stuff like this because she had no troubles getting pregnant at all. She actually does not believe in birthcontrol so she already criticized me for that. She would probably tell me that I wouldn't have these problems if I hadn't gone on the pill. It makes me feel better to know that I am not the only one keeping this a secret.

Hi Liane - I told everyone that I was TTC and in hindsight I wish I never because I think it puts too much pressure on yourself! Take care

Thanks for the input Laura. That is the exact reason that I don't want many people to know. The ones that I chose to tell were chosen specifically because I knew that they would be good support systems and wouldn't make me feel pressured. I had to have someone to confide in....

Hi Liane, the only people I told I was ttc again were the people that knew about my m/c. The rest of the world doesnt need to know. I have had plently of people ask me when I'm going to have kids and I just tell them that when I'm ready I will. P.S....same reason I dont have a picture!

I kept it a secret from everyone but my sister until a couple of months ago. I agree that there can be additional pressure...if you let it get to you. Otherwise, opening up to my mom has helped a lot. I learned that she, too, had trouble conceiving, and it took her about a year to conceive both my sister and I...which actually relieved pressure.

I am glad to know I am not the only one.....

Me on the other hand, well a lot of our friends know. This was before my doctors visit and before I found out I had PCOS. Once I found out, well then I wish some of them didnt know, because now they wonder whats taking so long. I told them im just having a harder time than most people getting pregnant but it will happen in time, and that im very positive that it will happen. Some also know im on meds, but not all. Just a few. My parents know a little of whats going on and that I have PCOS, because well I work for them, and had to come here after my doctors appt. and I had been balling my eyes out. They also know im on meds, and are very supportive. As for my husbands parents, well im not sure what my father in law knows, but im sure its some, because he is always super sweeter to me now, and as for my mother in law (a nurse), who has to be one of the kindess people I know, well she def. knows a lot going on.

My husband was at lunch with her the day I found out I had tiny cysts (and at that time just thought cysts). She called me later that day to check on me and I filled her in. Then later that night I looked at my chart thing and saw Polycystic Ovaries, and all my doc said to me was tiny cysts (yeah same thing), then thats when I feel apart.

She now knows, because I was talking with one of our cousins about it when they visited, who also had a hard time getting pregnant, and was actually told she wouldnt be able to, yeah they have a 3 year old now. Anyways she said something to my mother in law, which then said something to my husband. He didnt really want to have that convo with his mom...haha. Anyways she now knows its something more serious then just a cyst. Anyways so a good amount of our family and friends know, but I love having there support, and then again at times hate it, because they dont know exactly what to say, because none of them are in my shoes, and it sucks!!

Anyways thats my story on who all knows.

My advice is if you are going to tell someone, make sure they will understand or try to understand what you are going through, because a lot of people wont, and might try and say, oh well 6 months isnt even long, give it time. That is the worse thing to hear, especially when you find out, that you havent ovulated at all, it gets pretty frustrating, and honestly thats now how I have picked who my true friends really are. Best wishes to all you great ladies.

Atleast we all have each other...right?

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