Over 35 and Not Pregnant

I would definitely go see an ob/gyn or an re as time is of the essence for you b/c of your age. I don't even think a dr. would tell you to wait a year before seeing someone. You may want to take a more aggressive approach than to just try by the wait and see method. Good luck, i hope you are blessed with a child very soon! Tons of BabyDust to you.

Hi Tracey,

The general recommendation is 6 months of TTC for women aged 35 or more.

But if I were you, irrespective of whether ur periods are normal or not, I would see a Reproductive Endocrinologist (fertility specialist). They are specialists and way better and aggressive (depending on how u want) than an Ob-Gyn.

Good luck to u

Thank you all for the advice. The thing that really boggles me is that my period is always, and I mean ALWAYS on time rain or shine. I will definitely step things up and look up a fertility specialist.

Tracy,

I am 36 and have been TTC for almost 1 year. I too have been monitoring my ovulation days and my husband and I have both done several tests that have come back normal and still no luck. I have also been using clomid 50mg for three months. I have read that it can take up to a year but when you are our age you should seek assistance from a fertility specialist after 6 months because it could take longer and we would be wasting time. I waited almost 9 months before going to a FE (was given clomid from my ob/gyn) and I wish I had done so sooner!!!

Here is a link with some info and below is a sentence from it:

http://babymed.com/faq/Content.aspx?14372 (You can do a search for this info on this site and on the internet)

"If you haven't got pregnant after a year of trying (six months if you are over 35), you may want to talk with your doctor about your options."

WISHING YOU LOTS AND LOTS OF LUCK!!!!

Have u got the partner tetsed? Semen analysis? U would be surprised to know how many couples have a hard time conceiving because of male fertility factor.

HopeN,

I thought about this and discussed with my husband. Bottom line, we need to step things up. After having sex consistently while ovulating, the waiting afterwards is just grueling and when that PT is not positive, talk about a let down! It takes the wind out of our sails big time. Would you recommend a Urologist, or plain old Internist for my husband? Or would a fertility specialist be able to guide us on what to do for my spouse???

JenStar, thanks for the link. I will be reading it!

Thanks Hope, I did and he was good. Tracy did you?

So far all tests have come back good so we aren't sure what is going on. If I get AF in the next few days I will do FSh and two other tests on day 2-3 of my cycle and then try shots with IUI. Do you remember if you by any chance had any spotting before you would have gotten your AF the month you found out you were preggo??

Hi Tracey, a good old fertility specialist would do the basic Seman analysis where the hubby needs to drop off the specimen. If all is good, then no more Dr visits for the hubby.

I totally understand how u feel, TTC consumes our lives and controls it good or bad. Dont be let down. An RE's primary role is to try to get u preggo. So, try and see an RE and take it from there.

Tracy,

The fertility specialists (FE) can send you where to go for the sperm test. My husband actually did it in their office. He said it was the most embarrassing thing he ever did- but it was well worth it, knowing he was good.

JenStar, hubby and talked it about maybe a few days ago. He hasn't had his semen analyzed just yet. But, I'm on the search for an RE.

Good luck!!!! Keep us posted :O)

JenStar, it's so funny you should say that. My husband was like, how am I supposed to get aroused at the doctor's office. He had this blank stare on his face. PRICELESS! I told him there may be a way he can drop his speciman off instead of having to give it in the office!!!

Tracey Yes there are options, but its best to do it at the office lol. Sometimes it may stress out the hubby so thats the only thing he needs to watch out to not get a low result. U can do it @ ur home and drop it off, but u need to ensure certain precautions r taken care off. Theres a whole bunch of things like shud be dropped off in a certain time, shud be warm, shud be this that..So, make sure to talk to ur Dr abt this.

HopeN, I never looked at it that. Yeah, giving the speciman at the office will be much better. I will keep everyone posted.

Ladies, as promised, I told I'd give you an update. I took a HPT this morning and it was positive!!!!! I was blown away. I made an appt with my OB GYN. I am having some cramping though. It feels like my period is going to start, but it has not, which prompted me to take the test! I can't believe!! All the charting, BBT, etc has paid off.

Omg....congrats Tracey....wishing you loads of sticky glue!!!!

Tracey...Very happy for ya :) Wishing you a very happy and a healthy 9 months!!! Please keep us updated on ur journey. Sending you tons of

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Tracey you have given me some hope I'm 37 but we are dealing with some male factors!!!! Congrats once again....

Ladies, thanks for the love and sticky glue!

Yes, there is hope. I'm a living witness.

:)))))>>>Tracey keep us posted ok!!!!!

Congrats Tracy! How awesome! I will be 37 in August and have been trying for almost ayear...however, I have some tube/ovary issues! So happy for you!! LOADS of sticky glue for you!

Many Conbgratulations Tracey, I'm extremely pleased for you. I love to see the BFP's on this site, they make me smile esp when the lucky lady is in her 30's!!! (Being 39 myself I know it feels like time is running short!) Congrats and lots and lots of sticky glue to you. xx

Wow Tracy! this is such wonderful news... Congratulations and lots of sticky glue to you!!! Keep us posted throughout your pregnancy as we ALL will want to know how you are doing. Good luck w/ everything and i hope you have a VERY happy and healthy pregnancy!

Thank you ladies! I have an appt with my OB GYN on May 8th. I will keep you posted.