October 01, 2008
Hello Everyone... I am currently 27yrs old and found this fertlityties.com website only 2 days ago... Loveing every minute of it, I have become addicted to all the postings and updates... So I decided to today I would begin posting a my own family journey and update as things progress along. Thank you to everyone for your support and words of encouragments... it's amazing I've been ttc for over 6yrs now and just came upon a site like this that offers soo much support for families such as mine.
To being, I had my first son when I was 18 just finishing high school... I was in a rough relationship and chose to get out after hearing I had been cheated on. The one friend that my ex-husband and I had since high school - the only male friend I had been allowed to remain friends with - had visited town prior to his deployment to Korea for the Army... he and I continued to speak long distance while he was in Korea and grew very close - he came home for a funeral and things were def differnt for the two of us - friendship had taken on a new level. He finally returned in 2002 from Korea and we took a few trips out of town together before deciding to move in together. He was very ready for marriage, I was a bit hesitant due to my past relationship - he was very accepting of my son, of which he'd known since was 2 days old. We decided only a few months later to get married and right away my son being more than 3 years old we were ready to try for our own children. November of 2003 we had our first miscarriage and from there began to wonder about things, prior to this miscarriage we had seen a doc for infertility - we had the inital tests ran and and HSG which was completely normal we were told we needed to do a few things differently and give it more time. We had the ectopic miscarriage, got down and depressed but remained on track for trying. DH deployed to Iraq in early 2004 for a year deployment, which put everything on hold. Thought we might get prego on his R&R, nope. He came home in spring of 2005 - to our surprise he'd been living with severe pain during the entire deployment, the medics told him it was muscle spasms - he returned home to finally have an MRI completed and found out he had a spinal tumor in the (forgive my spelling) theical sack *were all the nerves meet in the spine*
He was told this could be removed and we were warned to freeze sperm because of possible complications that could occur, we did not because of the $$$ money being an issue - how sad. Surgery went well, doc said it was "BADLUCK" that caused it and that it COULD one day come back. Just another set back in our attempts :-)
We began our journey further with the IVF clinic in San Antonio - thru the military program. There is a two year wait for IVF and they will only allow you to be put on that list after you have gone thru many failed attempts at all courses of medications - we went thru it all, another HSG that was showing right tube blocked this time in Dec 05 - Surgery to unblock tube in March 06 (which they decided not to unblock). Miscarriage number 2 two weeks after the surgery attempt. Again very discouraged. October 06 my DH deployed again for one year to Iraq. Feb we rec'd orders he would be extended to 15 month deployment. All in all we had made the effort to save and freeze sperm prior to this deployment, this allowing for me to continue IUI treatments during his deployment. Yeah right? No,my right ovary is alway the one producing the largest follicles and most eggs. IUI attempts 3 - how many tiems did I go thru the process and told we would try again next month.. prob 10 times. No Hope right? I had gotten pretty frustrated and one of the cos finally said hey I'm recommending you for the IVF list. So around July 07 we were put on the list. My husband came home from Iraq for R&R August 07 - came down with BellsPalsy - got to stay home. Yeah! Get back to treatments? No he was frustraged! So time passes - we got a call in April the IVF clinic had people cancel out and unable for their spouses to attend - they have openings for their August IVF cycle. They run 3 cycles a year, Jan, April and August. 65 couples in each. 50% success rates. Military Dicounted Co-Pay = $3800 for August cycle going up to $4500 in Jan. Yeah - we had from April to June 1st to save the money. My DH being very discouraged was a bit against saving for this risky and expensive process, I made it happen!! We began our BCP July 15th Stopped BCP August 31st. Had 21 follicles - grew up to 23 in size - retrieval was 15th Sept and Transfered 2 (graded 8A & 8B) back on the 18th of Sept. Had first BFP yesterday with hcg level of 327. Go tomorrow for 2nd blood test.
Long Story short, I am not telling my son anything yet - we didn't tell him about miscarriage #2 - because we'd made the mistake of telling him about #1 and had to explain it all. He's almost 10 now... but he knows about us visiting docs attempting for pregnancy but doesn't know results yet. waiting til 8wks or more to tell :-) to be a bit more safe. I want to see u/s first.
So I'll update as things progress... Thanks for listening.
**NEOne know how to post pics in these things? Photobucket get a code? I'll begin belly pics in a few weeks if all goes according to plan.
To being, I had my first son when I was 18 just finishing high school... I was in a rough relationship and chose to get out after hearing I had been cheated on. The one friend that my ex-husband and I had since high school - the only male friend I had been allowed to remain friends with - had visited town prior to his deployment to Korea for the Army... he and I continued to speak long distance while he was in Korea and grew very close - he came home for a funeral and things were def differnt for the two of us - friendship had taken on a new level. He finally returned in 2002 from Korea and we took a few trips out of town together before deciding to move in together. He was very ready for marriage, I was a bit hesitant due to my past relationship - he was very accepting of my son, of which he'd known since was 2 days old. We decided only a few months later to get married and right away my son being more than 3 years old we were ready to try for our own children. November of 2003 we had our first miscarriage and from there began to wonder about things, prior to this miscarriage we had seen a doc for infertility - we had the inital tests ran and and HSG which was completely normal we were told we needed to do a few things differently and give it more time. We had the ectopic miscarriage, got down and depressed but remained on track for trying. DH deployed to Iraq in early 2004 for a year deployment, which put everything on hold. Thought we might get prego on his R&R, nope. He came home in spring of 2005 - to our surprise he'd been living with severe pain during the entire deployment, the medics told him it was muscle spasms - he returned home to finally have an MRI completed and found out he had a spinal tumor in the (forgive my spelling) theical sack *were all the nerves meet in the spine*
He was told this could be removed and we were warned to freeze sperm because of possible complications that could occur, we did not because of the $$$ money being an issue - how sad. Surgery went well, doc said it was "BADLUCK" that caused it and that it COULD one day come back. Just another set back in our attempts :-)
We began our journey further with the IVF clinic in San Antonio - thru the military program. There is a two year wait for IVF and they will only allow you to be put on that list after you have gone thru many failed attempts at all courses of medications - we went thru it all, another HSG that was showing right tube blocked this time in Dec 05 - Surgery to unblock tube in March 06 (which they decided not to unblock). Miscarriage number 2 two weeks after the surgery attempt. Again very discouraged. October 06 my DH deployed again for one year to Iraq. Feb we rec'd orders he would be extended to 15 month deployment. All in all we had made the effort to save and freeze sperm prior to this deployment, this allowing for me to continue IUI treatments during his deployment. Yeah right? No,my right ovary is alway the one producing the largest follicles and most eggs. IUI attempts 3 - how many tiems did I go thru the process and told we would try again next month.. prob 10 times. No Hope right? I had gotten pretty frustrated and one of the cos finally said hey I'm recommending you for the IVF list. So around July 07 we were put on the list. My husband came home from Iraq for R&R August 07 - came down with BellsPalsy - got to stay home. Yeah! Get back to treatments? No he was frustraged! So time passes - we got a call in April the IVF clinic had people cancel out and unable for their spouses to attend - they have openings for their August IVF cycle. They run 3 cycles a year, Jan, April and August. 65 couples in each. 50% success rates. Military Dicounted Co-Pay = $3800 for August cycle going up to $4500 in Jan. Yeah - we had from April to June 1st to save the money. My DH being very discouraged was a bit against saving for this risky and expensive process, I made it happen!! We began our BCP July 15th Stopped BCP August 31st. Had 21 follicles - grew up to 23 in size - retrieval was 15th Sept and Transfered 2 (graded 8A & 8B) back on the 18th of Sept. Had first BFP yesterday with hcg level of 327. Go tomorrow for 2nd blood test.
Long Story short, I am not telling my son anything yet - we didn't tell him about miscarriage #2 - because we'd made the mistake of telling him about #1 and had to explain it all. He's almost 10 now... but he knows about us visiting docs attempting for pregnancy but doesn't know results yet. waiting til 8wks or more to tell :-) to be a bit more safe. I want to see u/s first.
So I'll update as things progress... Thanks for listening.
**NEOne know how to post pics in these things? Photobucket get a code? I'll begin belly pics in a few weeks if all goes according to plan.
October 02, 2008