thanks Liane
Miscarriage last week at 4 months
March 31, 2008
After trying to conceive #1 on fertility meds for months, I was given a great New years day present...a positive. I began spotting very early on but no reason why could be found. I would go weekly for sonos but all was well with the baby with still no explanation. When I hit 3 months, I began bleeding heavier- this time red blood. I went to the doctors to find out I had a blot clot in my placenta which they believed i must have torn. To this day, i still do not know how. I was very careful. The doctors told me it was a slight tear and that it would heal with time. I was put on bedrest for 2 weeks and the bleeding stopped. I was told i could go back to work. I was fine, no pain, no blood. The night before easter i felt a little wet, but i thought the baby was pushing on my bladder. Easter morning i woke up to go to the bathroom. I began gushing blood and it would not stop. My DH and I rushed to the ER. They did a sono and we saw our baby moving with a healthy heart beat. The doctor finally walked in and told me that my water had ruptured and we had to abort the pregnancy. I began to cry hysterically. They induced labor and I delivered a baby boy 11 hours later. Has anyone ever had this happen to them? I have been doing research as to why bc i dont want this happening again. I am not sure if it was a placenta problem, a uterine problem, blot clotting disorder, or an infection that caused my water to break early. What tests can i ask doctors to do? I am very scared to even try again for the sake of the baby. I knew i had a problem conceiving but now fear i have a problem keeping the baby. Please help. Any info would be extremely appreciated.
hi rae i also lost a baby at 19 weeks and i was devestated i had a post mortem done on the baby and the only explanation that they could give me was that the baby couldnt hold on any longer i had to have a d and c afterwards because the placenta was still inside me. i really know how you feel and i am sending you lots of hugs and prayers..
awwwww Rae I'm so very sorry! I know a couple ppl that has had this happen to. Now it is nothing you did that made this happens. The ppl that I know that went thru this one of them lost the baby and another 2 did carry to 29 to 31 weeks I cannot remember but they were on complete bed rest for the entire time. Plus the last few weeks they were in the hospital. The babies is fine now and I believe is several years old. Still the dr's don't know why or how it happen.
Let me tell you once again sweetie I'm so very sorry for your lost but you didn't do anything wrong. If you need more help we are here for you!!!! Keeping you in my prayers!
Let me tell you once again sweetie I'm so very sorry for your lost but you didn't do anything wrong. If you need more help we are here for you!!!! Keeping you in my prayers!
Thank you. I cant tell you how miserable i have been. i think the only thing that keeps me going is hoping to find a reason why. Doctors told me that it just may be a freak thing that has happened to me. They say there will be no definite explanation. But i looked online and found a story written by a woman who had 3 m/c in a row b/c her uterus was an odd shape and didnt give enough room for the baby to grow. So she continued to miscarry in the 2nd trimester. I was wondering if this could be the case with me.I just hope that someone can give me an answer and i can test for these problems before i am able to try again. It is very hard to go through a labor you know will result in a still born child. I hope no one has to go thru that pain.
Rae, I have had 4 losts so far not as long as yours were but still hits your heart and a part of your soul. I just had a chemical 4 days before my b-day this mth. It takes time to heal...you need to take it second by second right now. Yes researching it can help but also can lead to more questions. Right now you are feeling lost and alone with this mess. We are here for you. Right now you need to have ppl in your life that understand how you feel. Believe me it is the most heartbreaking time in your life. I don't wish this on anyone. If you need anything this is the place to be.
Rae, You are a very brave woman to go through this sort of ordeal and still truck on, no matter what your reason is. I am so very proud of you. Please except my sincere condolences on the loss of your baby boy. I have a very heavy heart after reading your post and I will keep you and your famil in my prayers. Please take as much time as you need in healing from this loss. We are all here for you, anytime day or night and your baby boy is now a beautiful angel looking down on you and smiling for how beautiful and brave his mommy his!! God Bless and much much love! ((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))
I started with research and I am still researching but a little knowledge can be very dangerous! I have shocked my nurses a few times... If it helps you get throught the rough times do it! I have found some scary things out there tho!! Just dont let it get you down!! Nowadays I dont tell anyone that I am pg bc it hurts so much when I have to tell everyone that It didn't work. I suffer the loss alone!
Sundaeone- Do you happen to have any children now? After all your losses i hope u tell me yes. I only wish the best for both of us and all the others on this site to have happy, healthy pregnancies. With this pregnancy, i popped so quickly. Everyone could tell i was pregnant at 2 1/2 months. If it happens again, i dont know how i would conceal it. It must stink to have to hide such a joyful occasion bc of the fear of having a loss.
As for the research, I know alot of it can be scary but it does help. I have a ton of questions for the doctors. I just dont understand y this happened so late. The chances of having a M/C in the second trimester are very slim. It is upsetting to read but I see it as an outlet some how.
As for the research, I know alot of it can be scary but it does help. I have a ton of questions for the doctors. I just dont understand y this happened so late. The chances of having a M/C in the second trimester are very slim. It is upsetting to read but I see it as an outlet some how.
Hang in there Rae, sounds like you were in the second trimester, if so, testing varies which may include some of these:
uterine and endometrial evaluation
thrombophilia evaluation
antiphospholipid antibodies
fetal chromosomes to see if normal
endocrine evaluation (TSH, Diabetes)
Talk to your doc more, and chances are things will be much better next time...we're all here together and to help..
*****babydust*****
uterine and endometrial evaluation
thrombophilia evaluation
antiphospholipid antibodies
fetal chromosomes to see if normal
endocrine evaluation (TSH, Diabetes)
Talk to your doc more, and chances are things will be much better next time...we're all here together and to help..
*****babydust*****
March 31, 2008