November 21, 2009
just my story
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I hope that you guys get all the info you need to make a decission, I know how hard it can be to make one, but i'm hoping that you do get new and good news and that you well get your BFP soon and that you well get your baby even sooner :)
Ya know I was thinking alot as i was typeing and I started to wonder about alot of things and there is this part of me that feel selffish for wanting another baby when there are soo many people who try and try and try and get notihng, and then things with my Boyfriend are good but off, this last week all i can seem to remember is all the bad shit that my EX's did to me and I feel myself talking diffrent and being diffrent towards him, and i'm wondering if it just me or if its cus he has his daughter back and that kinda means no baby for right now or if it just he bussy with her all the time now so there not much time for me i dont know we have lots of STUPID little fights and I know he would never hit me but i had an ex that did and the other day we were having this fight and i just keep having flash backs and i was so scared and upset and stressed and he could tell that and right after that he was so good to me and i was just a mess, I think everything is getting to me :( I want a baby soo bad, everyone i know just had a baby or is preggo, i just wish some things in life were easy ya know ??
well i guess i should stop venting LOL and try and get some rest but I hope more then anything that your apt on friday help you :)
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As for the situation with your BF I can kinda understand. My DH and I have been fighting on and off a bit and I thik it has alot to do with the stress of ttc and IVF, plus having so many ppl aroundyou with babies or being preggo doesnt make things any easier. My dh is my only ever BF/DH his my first and last relationship but in my past I was sexually assualted and whn we fight etc even tho I know he would never hit me etc I too find myself having flashbacks to my past so thats 100% normal according to my counsellor whn those flashbacks happen in those moments. Im no professional and I dont know you fgrom a bar or soap but from the sounds of things you have been in a pretty terrible relationship in your past and maybe talking to someone whose trained to help deal with the after affects of relationships like your one with your EX may benefit you with dealing with flashbacks. I iknow I would be lost without my counsellor and all the help she gives me with dealing with all the flashbacks I have. She says that flashbacks are our body/minds way of tellingus w need to deal with that area. But like I said Im no professional and I by no means am trying to make you feel bad or anything jst sharing from my own experience things that I have found helpful
Sweety it wouldnt matter if you have 1 kid or 10 already at the end of the day you and your BF want to have a baby together and you want that baby no doubt just as baddly as I want our 1st baby. So please dont feel bad abut wanting a baby whnyou already have one, you should be allowed to want and have as many as you want and are able to provide a good home/lifestyle too.
PLEASE NEVER feel bad about venting on here. Thats what FT is about, its about offering us all the suppport we need in what ever situation we may be facing on our ttc journey.
Thanx for the well wishes for friday Im kinda nervous about the appt but excited at the same time.
Sending you loads of hugz
And dont be Nervous, good things come to those who wait :O)
and I know that something good is going to come to you, I just dont know when.......... :O) but I'm here any time you need to talk
and just to give a heads up Only one Ex ever Hit me and pushed me the rest just Used me for sex, or made me feel Low orworth less and would always talk down to me, My one ex told me that NOONE would ever Love me and that i was just a Sex toy, and I'v always told myself No thats not true but deep down you feel like you are,that those words are right and then one night night I told Lance what he said and how i felt and Lance just looked at me and cuped my chin and started to play with my hair and told me to look at him and as i did he told me that buddy was veary wrong Cus He did love me with all his heart and that there was no way he would ever use me as a sex toy, I ment more to him then anything, I think i fell in love all over again :)
oh ya thank you for the Hugs they do help :O) and Lots of Hugs right back at ya :O)






December 05, 2009
I read your story and I can really relate to your first m/c. As its exactly what happened with me I didnt even know I was preg until the dr told me but I had what I thought was af but was actually me m/c. Ive gone on to lose 7 angels with a possible 8th. Currently Im doing my first cycle of ivf+icsi with sperm biopsy. So fx we will have our first little miracle in our arms in about 10months time.
I really love what your doing for your friend. My bestie has offered to do the same for us if we have no success with our cycles with ivf, and it means the world to me so Im sure it means the same to your friend.....sending you loads of baby dust