Oh, sorry, was re reading that..what does the accupuncture cost?
Just looking to vent about DH and acupuncture/money issues!!
January 07, 2008
Hey All - i had an appt with Re to get the ball rollin with the IVF and asked his opinion on the acupuncture stuff.
He was happy to discuss it and they actually have someone that they work with that will come to the place where you are hangin out after the IVF transfer to do whatever it is that they do. He couldn’t and wouldn’t tell us that it would get us pregnant but also didnt say anything bad about it. My DH doesnt want to spend the $ unless we are gonna get something out of it and so he wanted the doc to say yes, its worth it and obviously, medically, he cant do that. He did say that plenty of his patients do go and are very happy with the outcome. Im gonna go anyway, just wish DH would be a bit more supportive about this. I understand his reservations but would like him to be on board without making me feel guilty about spending the $ on it. I am looking for anything to help at this point and just want all of this crap to be done and move on to the next part of our life.
All this fertility stuff sure puts a lot of stress and pressure on the relationship. He wants this very badly and I know he loves me more than anything but I wish he would just be more supportive on things that may make me a bit more comfy during all this crap. The meds make me gain weight, sleepy and just moody and sooo very many other things - if the acupuncture helps then isnt it worth the money.... wont the house be happier if I am happier? Anyway, spose if I am a nicer person during the acupuncture he will be fine with spending the money..... wish he would encourage me to do it instead of waiting to see if he is getting something out of it :(
We are soooo very blessed since our insurance covers almost everything we do and I don’t think he gets that or that fact that many woman spend life savings or take 2nd mortgages out to go thru these treatments that really all included have prob cost us $500 or $600.
Thanks for listening to me rant about all of this, sometimes all of this weighs on me and I want it to be over, other times I am so excited to learn more and get going on the new treatments - guess today is one of those days that I am done with all this crap.... LOL!
He was happy to discuss it and they actually have someone that they work with that will come to the place where you are hangin out after the IVF transfer to do whatever it is that they do. He couldn’t and wouldn’t tell us that it would get us pregnant but also didnt say anything bad about it. My DH doesnt want to spend the $ unless we are gonna get something out of it and so he wanted the doc to say yes, its worth it and obviously, medically, he cant do that. He did say that plenty of his patients do go and are very happy with the outcome. Im gonna go anyway, just wish DH would be a bit more supportive about this. I understand his reservations but would like him to be on board without making me feel guilty about spending the $ on it. I am looking for anything to help at this point and just want all of this crap to be done and move on to the next part of our life.
All this fertility stuff sure puts a lot of stress and pressure on the relationship. He wants this very badly and I know he loves me more than anything but I wish he would just be more supportive on things that may make me a bit more comfy during all this crap. The meds make me gain weight, sleepy and just moody and sooo very many other things - if the acupuncture helps then isnt it worth the money.... wont the house be happier if I am happier? Anyway, spose if I am a nicer person during the acupuncture he will be fine with spending the money..... wish he would encourage me to do it instead of waiting to see if he is getting something out of it :(
We are soooo very blessed since our insurance covers almost everything we do and I don’t think he gets that or that fact that many woman spend life savings or take 2nd mortgages out to go thru these treatments that really all included have prob cost us $500 or $600.
Thanks for listening to me rant about all of this, sometimes all of this weighs on me and I want it to be over, other times I am so excited to learn more and get going on the new treatments - guess today is one of those days that I am done with all this crap.... LOL!
ok, so i called the insurance even tho it is not listed in the book as a covered benefit and its not but there are 2 clinics that are in the area, within 6 miles of my house, that are in a provider plan with my insurance that they give a 25% discount with each treatement. Thats good!! Every little bit helps - thx for all your help everyone!! I wouldnt have called except i was shocked that someone had this covered and i didnt since our insurance covers so veyr much.
Chelsha,
I know exactly what you mean about IVF/infertility in general putting alot of stress & pressure on the relationship!
I would remind your hubby again that your insurance pays for IVF, which is the killer!! You are so blessed that you don't have to worry about that too!
I also did acupuncture (which I told you). I would go to the one by our house, which was $50.00. The Acupuncturist that my RE works with (she does it right before & after the transfer) costs $300.00 a visit...OUCH!! We did it the 1st time & we did get prego, but then miscarried. Our thought was "should we do it again?..It's so EXPENSIVE" (we have to pay out of pocket)..Our final though was what if that helped implantation. If we don't do it we are always gonna wonder if that would have made a difference. So we did it everytime @ $300.00 a pop!! OUCH... In the big picture, if it helps us achieve our goal of a baby. Then we'd pay a million dollars!! LOL
Best of luck...Let me know if I can help in any way.
P.S. I gained 20 pounds with the meds in the past year!! You're not alone girlfriend!! LOL
I know exactly what you mean about IVF/infertility in general putting alot of stress & pressure on the relationship!
I would remind your hubby again that your insurance pays for IVF, which is the killer!! You are so blessed that you don't have to worry about that too!
I also did acupuncture (which I told you). I would go to the one by our house, which was $50.00. The Acupuncturist that my RE works with (she does it right before & after the transfer) costs $300.00 a visit...OUCH!! We did it the 1st time & we did get prego, but then miscarried. Our thought was "should we do it again?..It's so EXPENSIVE" (we have to pay out of pocket)..Our final though was what if that helped implantation. If we don't do it we are always gonna wonder if that would have made a difference. So we did it everytime @ $300.00 a pop!! OUCH... In the big picture, if it helps us achieve our goal of a baby. Then we'd pay a million dollars!! LOL
Best of luck...Let me know if I can help in any way.
P.S. I gained 20 pounds with the meds in the past year!! You're not alone girlfriend!! LOL
Hi aching! Yeah, this weight gain is the topper of it all!! I can deal with a lot of crap but my “fat clothes” not fitting was the cherry at the top of this Sh*t sundae!
Wow, that is soooo very much money to pump into the IVF cycles! I actually talked to the lady that I will be going with and she wants her fertility patients there twice a week which I told her just wasnt gonna happen and she said that if I pay for one session a week she will give me the other (she does this only with fertility clients). She said she feels that strongly about being there 2x a week. So, im not gonna ask for the 25% discount since she is being so generous. They will cost $60/week which is cheaper than the other guy was and I am getting 2 sessions a week for the $60 price. I think that is very doable and DH will just need to get over it!
She said she also wants me there the day of the retreval (before hand) and the same day of the transfer (b4 hand obviously since the next 4 days I will doing nothing xcept getting up to go to the bathroom).
Aching, did you really not drive, do steps or do anything for 4 days after your transfer? That is gonna kill me! No computer, no going anywhere and not being able to clean the house..... thats insane!! My kids will love waiting on me tho, they like taking care of their mommy :) Great kids, they are even gonna make up menus of things they can make without my help. Im gonna be eating a lot of PB&J, rice, soup and mac and cheese from the microwave! LOL!
HopeN, I too, really hope this is it for us - we are sooooo ready to be pregnant!! Thx!!
Wow, that is soooo very much money to pump into the IVF cycles! I actually talked to the lady that I will be going with and she wants her fertility patients there twice a week which I told her just wasnt gonna happen and she said that if I pay for one session a week she will give me the other (she does this only with fertility clients). She said she feels that strongly about being there 2x a week. So, im not gonna ask for the 25% discount since she is being so generous. They will cost $60/week which is cheaper than the other guy was and I am getting 2 sessions a week for the $60 price. I think that is very doable and DH will just need to get over it!
She said she also wants me there the day of the retreval (before hand) and the same day of the transfer (b4 hand obviously since the next 4 days I will doing nothing xcept getting up to go to the bathroom).
Aching, did you really not drive, do steps or do anything for 4 days after your transfer? That is gonna kill me! No computer, no going anywhere and not being able to clean the house..... thats insane!! My kids will love waiting on me tho, they like taking care of their mommy :) Great kids, they are even gonna make up menus of things they can make without my help. Im gonna be eating a lot of PB&J, rice, soup and mac and cheese from the microwave! LOL!
HopeN, I too, really hope this is it for us - we are sooooo ready to be pregnant!! Thx!!
Im wishing you all the best Chels like always. I know your dream will come true soon. I just know it, and def. stress to the hubby how lucky you guys are to have insurance that covers IVF and stuff, and thats soo great that accupuncture can be a tax write off. I cant remember how all that worked, I graduated in accounting but taxes, well took 1 class and OMG is all I can say...haha. I guess I could call H&R block or something like that and find out.
Im now wondering if we get accupuncture or other things at a discount and just dont know it!
Anyways I love you sweetie and im here if you need ANYTHING!!!!!!
Im now wondering if we get accupuncture or other things at a discount and just dont know it!
Anyways I love you sweetie and im here if you need ANYTHING!!!!!!
I know exactly what you mean about IVF/infertility in general putting alot of stress & pressure on the relationship!---- YES WHAT CHELSEA SAID!! My hubby is trying so hard to be supportive and yet he can be insensitive, they've got it easy ;)
Most of the time I do the injections myself, 1) its easier and 2) lot less stress for everyone
but last night for my first hcg shot, I got nervous so asked him to do it, and at first he was cool about it but when I got nervous he started freaking out and saying 'look its late and I have to go to sleep soon.. so lets just do this and be done okay!!' and it made me pretty angry to say the least, AAAAAAAHHHHHHHH IS RIGHT! I feel emotional, and sad at times and a little sicky and tummys bloated with fluids, and the ohss doesn't help, but when hubby acts like a jerk I wanna go postal at times. I really think this site is so wonderful because I have met the strongest, bravest most supportive wonderful fellow Mommies to be.... and it helps so much to vent vent vent!!!!!!!!!!! :)
I'm always here whenever you need to chat and stuff too, thanks for listening.
HUGS
J
Most of the time I do the injections myself, 1) its easier and 2) lot less stress for everyone
but last night for my first hcg shot, I got nervous so asked him to do it, and at first he was cool about it but when I got nervous he started freaking out and saying 'look its late and I have to go to sleep soon.. so lets just do this and be done okay!!' and it made me pretty angry to say the least, AAAAAAAHHHHHHHH IS RIGHT! I feel emotional, and sad at times and a little sicky and tummys bloated with fluids, and the ohss doesn't help, but when hubby acts like a jerk I wanna go postal at times. I really think this site is so wonderful because I have met the strongest, bravest most supportive wonderful fellow Mommies to be.... and it helps so much to vent vent vent!!!!!!!!!!! :)
I'm always here whenever you need to chat and stuff too, thanks for listening.
HUGS
J
20 pounds on meds, phew, I'm not alone... I haven't gotten on the scale yet but I am too scared to until after I start exercising normally again I had to lose weight before I started to begin with and a lot more to lose along the way,,,
Tomorrow is egg retrieval,
ladies, if you've gone through this part yet already, please share your experiences! curious to know what that is like, etc.. pain, etc....
THANK YOU! :)
Tomorrow is egg retrieval,
ladies, if you've gone through this part yet already, please share your experiences! curious to know what that is like, etc.. pain, etc....
THANK YOU! :)
Chelsea,
stopped in to read your post again, I can't agree with you more on everything, we're feeling bloated, gaining weight, tired achy miserable, with they could be just a little more understanding, supportive and KIND...
FRUSTRATING!
But I hope the acupuncture is helping you, a little more stressful outbursts for me and I'm going to the closest one! ;)
Take care,,
Only women bleed... it seems at times!! RRRRR!!
I know they're trying to be supportive, mine got nicer and more caring when the Doc explained to him what I'm feeling and going through.
I get so frustrated at times I see myself yelling at him a lot.......
take care darlin, get lots of R&R
:)
stopped in to read your post again, I can't agree with you more on everything, we're feeling bloated, gaining weight, tired achy miserable, with they could be just a little more understanding, supportive and KIND...
FRUSTRATING!
But I hope the acupuncture is helping you, a little more stressful outbursts for me and I'm going to the closest one! ;)
Take care,,
Only women bleed... it seems at times!! RRRRR!!
I know they're trying to be supportive, mine got nicer and more caring when the Doc explained to him what I'm feeling and going through.
I get so frustrated at times I see myself yelling at him a lot.......
take care darlin, get lots of R&R
:)
I wish you tons and tons of luck with the retrevial and that you get so many mature follies you wont know what to do with them all!
My DH is still a jerk at times, way better than before but still says a lot of dumb sh*t!
I only did the accupuncture for 1 cycle cuz my DH ruined my joy when he complained about the cost of everything. Love how he is willing to drop thousands of dollars on meds for me but wont spend any money to help aleviate some of the bad things that come with the meds.... men are unreal sometimes!
The retrevial my RE gave me a valuim to take when i arrived and then went into the room like an hour later. Went nighty-night and then woke up when it was done. Kinda uncomfy so you may want to ask for some pain meds - they didnt offer the 1st time around but i asked the 2nd and they gave them to me no problem. I was pretty sore but so sleepy that i slept the rest of the retrevial day. Next day just a little crampy, no a big deal and went to work. The transfer is a little worse tho cuz you have to have a full bladder so make sure its not too full cuz mine was and it ws so painful! The 2nd time around it was full not not over-full so i was much more comfortable. For the first 3 or 4 days i still had the trigger shot in me and was sleepy and bloated and crampy and then it went away. I was on 4 days bed rest and then went to regualr (light) duty. Basically went to work and then home to rest but thats cuz my DH was trying to be nice then.
Wishing you the best of luck - its a long road and i hope that yours is a happy ending!!
My DH is still a jerk at times, way better than before but still says a lot of dumb sh*t!
I only did the accupuncture for 1 cycle cuz my DH ruined my joy when he complained about the cost of everything. Love how he is willing to drop thousands of dollars on meds for me but wont spend any money to help aleviate some of the bad things that come with the meds.... men are unreal sometimes!
The retrevial my RE gave me a valuim to take when i arrived and then went into the room like an hour later. Went nighty-night and then woke up when it was done. Kinda uncomfy so you may want to ask for some pain meds - they didnt offer the 1st time around but i asked the 2nd and they gave them to me no problem. I was pretty sore but so sleepy that i slept the rest of the retrevial day. Next day just a little crampy, no a big deal and went to work. The transfer is a little worse tho cuz you have to have a full bladder so make sure its not too full cuz mine was and it ws so painful! The 2nd time around it was full not not over-full so i was much more comfortable. For the first 3 or 4 days i still had the trigger shot in me and was sleepy and bloated and crampy and then it went away. I was on 4 days bed rest and then went to regualr (light) duty. Basically went to work and then home to rest but thats cuz my DH was trying to be nice then.
Wishing you the best of luck - its a long road and i hope that yours is a happy ending!!
January 07, 2008
I know this ttc stuff is so emotionally and physically and money draining! Totally understand where you guys are coming from.
One thing I would tell your dh to look at it is...try it once. If it works, look at the money you will be saving in the future on dr copays, opks, hpt, all that ttc stuff! It would be worth the $500! Plus its a tax deduction!
Good luck, sweetie!