How can i convince my husband to try again

August 21, 2008

hi well most of ye know my story and my history of miscarriages, well got the all clear from the hospital lat week and they cant find out why it it has happened to me which is ok i guess because at least i know its nothing i am doing wrong.

Well the reason i am writing this is because i am trying to convince my husband i want to try again, he doesnt want to as he has seen how upset i got the three times that i have miscarried.

He thinks that i should give up on the idea of having another baby. he wont even bd with me anymore as he thinks i will get pregnant, he goes to bed later than me most nights and makes sure i am asleep before he gets in beside me.

Why wont he understand that i want another baby more than anything...

August 21, 2008

Give it a little bit of time Andrea. He is probably hurting too. Just take a brake for a month or so and I'm sure he'll be on the same as you.

August 21, 2008

Andrea, I agree.. it takes time, and putting pressure on him will only make him drift further away from the idea of having another baby. I think keeping open lines of communication between you will be a good idea.

I was in a similar situation about 2 yrs ago, I wanted a baby, DH was happy with the one we had- It took some time for him to warm up to the idea.. so far not successful, but we are both on board and now doing IVF.. Wishing you luck

August 21, 2008

Thanks Selby, maria and caryn,

I know he is hurting too and i sometimes wake at night and lie there looking at him wondering if he really wants a baby with me i have a son with my ex and he has two sons with his ex, i want our baby more than anything.

he wants me to start taking birth control pills and wait and see how he feels in six months i dont think i can wait that long, i really thought as soon as the results of my tests came back he would want to try straight away.

August 22, 2008

Thanks Shelby,

We had a good chat and a good cry last night and we discussed what happens next, he is willing to try again which is a relief as i thought mabe he had given up hope of us ever having a baby, he just wants us to wait a month or so as he doesnt think i am emotionally ready yet.

I think i am as my last miscarriage was in May but i am going to give in to him and wait a few months and enjoy being with him...

August 22, 2008

Thank you so much Lisa.

I know in my heart i will get a chance to post another BFP on here again i just wish it could be right now, well never mind i am planning a nice romantic night tomorrow night and boy he better not fall asleep on me or i will kill him(lol)

August 22, 2008

yeah he says that he saw how it broke my heart the last time especially because we had only seen the heartbeat a couple of days beforehand.

Well i am going to think positive and then we can trade stories about our pregnancies and see how well we are doing...
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