Can't believe my mom! ***Venting***

hi mrsm im so sorry your mom did that to you i know its hard enough for you right now maybe you should try to keep a little distance from her thats what i have learned i have people in my family that could care less why i hurt so much every month when i get a bpn so iv decided to talk to them when i want and about what i want i keep it short and simple hang in there i will keep you in my prayers

Thank you lele! She actually called me back later to talk about football and I told her that it is very hard for me to hear about other peoples pregnancies, etc and that it was espcially hard when it ws told to me in the way it was. She said she understands and that when she first heard about it she cried too and that she is going through this with us and it is hard on her too! LOL! Really?!? WHat a joke! Oh well I just asked her to keep in mind that this is a very emotional time for us right now so please don't call with other peoples news right now. She said she wouldn't but that she thought I would want to know. She also said she struggled to have kids (there are 3 of us) and that although it was a long time ago she remembers it like yesterday :) She tried for 6 months with me got preggo immediately after with my brother and then tried for 2 years with my littlest brother.

hey MrsM im glad you told you mom how you felt im sure she is hurting for you i dont think people know how to react to this situstion we going through it dont want to here it but family and friend feel they always have to say somthing to enlighten the situation your day will come babydust to you

Thanks lele! I know people don't know how to react or what to say in this situation. One of my best friends hesitated and waited to tell me she was preggo with her second because she didn't want to hurt me. I was so excited for her and it kinda hurt my feelings that she didn't call and tell me right away like she would have if we were not ttc unsuccessfully however, I understand that she didn't want to hurt me or upset me. It's such a hard situation to be in :(

Thanks lele! I know people don't know how to react or what to say in this situation. One of my best friends hesitated and waited to tell me she was preggo with her second because she didn't want to hurt me. I was so excited for her and it kinda hurt my feelings that she didn't call and tell me right away like she would have if we were not ttc unsuccessfully however, I understand that she didn't want to hurt me or upset me. It's such a hard situation to be in :(

MrsM....nobody on the face of the Earth can make me as mad as my mother. Please don't feel alone. They get all wacky doody sometimes and do not think at all! I'm sorry that your mom said done this....but I can relate. I am going to tell my parents soon that we are pregnant and I'm awaiting what the reactions will be. I have a first cousin getting ready to deliver and I'm sure some in the family will think we are just jumping on a wagon...oh well!

It is a hard situation to be in and when stuff like this happens...I just go with the theory of this too shall pass~!

Thanks Kem~ Family can be more difficult to deal with than strangers. They know us so it hurts more when they say stupid things. I know sometimes they think that thye are helping out. My MIL at my husbands grandmothers birthday on Labor day announced to the party (right before we arrived) that we have been ttc and that is has been difficult for us. She did this hoping no one would ask us 5 million times when we are going to have kids because that is what usually happens when we go to family events (we will be married 10 years in Oct) but instead I had 5 million comments wishing us well, asking what was wrong, etc. I know she was just trying to help but it can be so frustrating.

MrsM - I feel for you and I am sorry about your mom. I know what its like to be asked a million times - "when are you guys having kids?" It is very hurtful. When we had our m/c people didn't ask us that question any more. It was a relief but every time you go to a family function people are looking at you and watching what you eat or drink and you know they are wondering. I am currently 10 weeks 3 days and keeping my fingers crossed for this l/o to stick. We have only told my sister and swore her to secrecy. We plan on telling the rest of our families when we are 12/13 weeks along. I am keeping you in my prayers and wishing you a BFP soon.

Thanks gibber! Sticky Sticky glue to you! Can't wait to read about how your pregnancy is progressing!

MrsM, i had something similar happen to me, but it was w/ my MIL. i had an ectopic pregnancy over 2 years ago, and a few months after (about 2), she was complaining to me about how her and a few other women without grandchildren were going to start a group for non-grandmothers and how sad it was for her. i just couldn't believe she was saying this to me after i lost my pregnancy and my right tube, as if i was deliberately depriving her of grandchildren.

One thing my own mother was insensitive about was telling me how much she hoped i would have a boy (as if i have any control over these things), and she wouldn't just drop it and didn't get that my silence on the phone meant i didn't care to hear what she wanted.

i think sometimes, even the people who love us get so self-absorbed they don't think about what we (the ones going through it) feel and they just have verbal diarrhea.

i totally feel for you about the public humiliations of people wondering why you don't have any kids. i had that for a LONG time since my dh and i had been married for a long time w/ no child. it's like, they don't have the sense to realize that MAYBE, something might be wrong and we don't want to talk about it, but ... like i said before, people can be so self-centered not thinking about others sometimes.

i hope you are feeling better though. just know that you are not alone in this.