Chelsea- I think ablut that all the time and we are not even into all that IVF, IUI stuff- It becomes all consuming. I am 31, DH 38 and we have 2 2 yr old..sometimes DH is like aren't you happy with the one we have..and YES of course I am happy with him.but I long for another baby. I do not know if its becuase he is "growing" up and does not need mommy as much..or if its a desire deep within and now is the time to fill it..but to basically answer your question yes I have a time limit..but more over..as much as I, We want another baby, for us its not worth ruining our marriage over. If its its Gods will, it will be, and I have to keep telling myself that..
At what point do you just give up and let it go?
February 12, 2008
Do any of your think about that? Is there a time line in years? I am 33, which I know is not terribly old but I have given birth twice, both in my 20's and the whole pregnancy and newborn was really hard, hard on me and ultimately took a huge toll on my marriage which ended up in divorce. I don’t blame the kids for the divorce cuz we just were too young to handle it all but the stress of it all did get to us. Anyway, im sooooo mentally exhausted with the IUI’s, the meds and now the IVF, meds and doctor appointments and the thought of doing the whole freekin process again makes me cry! I feel like everything in my life revolves around us wanting a baby and at some point something has to give - right now my house, my marriage, my job, my energy, my children, etc are all suffering due to this TTC process.
Im spent and I don’t know that I can do it anymore but I feel like such a quitter and would be failing my DH.
Im spent and I don’t know that I can do it anymore but I feel like such a quitter and would be failing my DH.
thx kelli - some days i am gung-ho lets beat this bast*ard but other days, more and more i feel like im loosing the fight and dont understand it at all! I feel like if i have a "stop date" i may be able to get thru another round but if this is indeffiant it just seems too much, ya know?
We, as women, really can get thru anything, we are very strong but there has to be a light at the end of the tunnel at some point..... months ago i would have said pregnancy was the light and now it may just be a break from all of this and maybe enjoying life a bit. Maybe a cruise with my DH is just what the doc ordered :)
We, as women, really can get thru anything, we are very strong but there has to be a light at the end of the tunnel at some point..... months ago i would have said pregnancy was the light and now it may just be a break from all of this and maybe enjoying life a bit. Maybe a cruise with my DH is just what the doc ordered :)
caryn, i also have children - mine from a previous marriage and i think about them all the time and wonder if they think that having another baby is more important than them since i am usually pretty consumed with meds or doc appt or just not feeling well. They are 9 and 11 and are so supportive in all of this TTC journey but i wonder sometimes if they secretly ask themselves "why arent we good enough".
Chelsea its totally normal to want to start a family with your new husband and its totally normal for the kids to wonder , "why arent we good enough". I say if you have an open dialogue and the kids know that having a new baby will never change how you feel about them..you will always love them , baby or no baby .
In my case, I think my DH is scared to have another-- he was not a real hands on Dad with an infant..and I think he worries about all those sleepless nights. He is thinking why do we or should we go thru that all again when we are home free in that regards now.
I think having a baby will add value and strngthen your new family. Babies should bring familes together not tear them apart. You seem like an awesome mom with great kids, I think they will welcome this bundle of joy and they might surprise you at how excited they will be to be a big brother and sister!
In my case, I think my DH is scared to have another-- he was not a real hands on Dad with an infant..and I think he worries about all those sleepless nights. He is thinking why do we or should we go thru that all again when we are home free in that regards now.
I think having a baby will add value and strngthen your new family. Babies should bring familes together not tear them apart. You seem like an awesome mom with great kids, I think they will welcome this bundle of joy and they might surprise you at how excited they will be to be a big brother and sister!
February 12, 2008
******************BFP DUST********************