Meghan, I am not in your situation, but wanted to tell you that its perfectly natural to be having all those feeling at this time, and that I am giving you a BIG ((HUG)) and let you know your mom is smiling down at you and is very proud of you!
Anyone else dealing with/dealt with this?
May 20, 2008
Okay, so, my Mom passed away when I was 16. I miss her, obviously.. but its one of those things I'm pretty much okay with now.. if that makes sense.. doesn't normally bother me really. The last time I felt really upset about her being gone was when I got married...
I was feeling fine about things, like her not being around for the birth of the baby, it is what it is, ya know? But, then, yesterday, when we were explaining that dh wouldn't get time off to my doctor, she started asking about famiy and asked if my Mom would be around to help with the baby and I lost it.. I cried in her office until I'd used up 1/2 her box of tissues...
I didn't realize it was kind of bothering me until now.. just wondering if anyone else has experienced the birth of their first baby without their mom around.. or if any of you pregnant ladies are in the same situation?
I was feeling fine about things, like her not being around for the birth of the baby, it is what it is, ya know? But, then, yesterday, when we were explaining that dh wouldn't get time off to my doctor, she started asking about famiy and asked if my Mom would be around to help with the baby and I lost it.. I cried in her office until I'd used up 1/2 her box of tissues...
I didn't realize it was kind of bothering me until now.. just wondering if anyone else has experienced the birth of their first baby without their mom around.. or if any of you pregnant ladies are in the same situation?
Oh Meghan, I am so sorry to hear about you missing your mom! You must have been close to your mom when she was still alive. I'm sure that what your feeling is very normal- afterall you are going through a very emotional time! My situation is different than yours- my mom is still alive- but she is not a really proactiv grandmother to my nieces and nephews ( My lil one won't be out til January)So I really don't have my mom to count on for help. I can't even talk to her about the struggles of trying to get pregnant- or about the miscarriage I had last June. She just tells me that "it happens". My thoughts are with you... :)
MEGHAN I AM THE SAME WAY MY DAD DIED WHEN I WAS 18 IT DIDNT REALLY HIT ME UNTILL MY WEDDING WHEN HE WAS NOT THERE TO GIVE ME AWAY SO I KINDA ADOPTED MY HUBBYS PARENTS AS MINE AND NOW HIS DAD MAY NOT MAKE IT SO IT BRINGS IT ALL BACK IM SORRY FOR WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH GOOD LUCK WITH THAT BUNDLE OF JOY IM SURE YOU WILL BE AN AWESOME MOMMY
Aww meghan im soo sorry! I cant even imagine. I know it must be hard.
One of my really good friends lost her mom this past year, and had to do the wake the day that they found out the sex of the baby. Her mommy was going to be in the delivery room with her. But she was there in spirit, and we all know how proud she was of her.
Same with your mom she would be so proud of you sweetie and she is there in spirit.
Im wishing you the best sweetie!
LOts of love!!
One of my really good friends lost her mom this past year, and had to do the wake the day that they found out the sex of the baby. Her mommy was going to be in the delivery room with her. But she was there in spirit, and we all know how proud she was of her.
Same with your mom she would be so proud of you sweetie and she is there in spirit.
Im wishing you the best sweetie!
LOts of love!!
Meghan (((((big hugs))))) I am so sorry that you're feeling sad and it's perfectly normal. So let it all out hun! Your mom is watching from above and she will be there for the birth and she will be Christians guardian angel :) I know it's hard but know that she loves you and is a part of you and therefor a part of your baby too.
I wish I could be there to give you a huge hug!!!
I wish I could be there to give you a huge hug!!!
May 20, 2008
sorry bebe! Thats rough and there is no way that i wouldnt act the exact same way if i was in your situation.
Some moments are harder than others i would assume and you gotta just let it out. I bet your doc fet horrible for asking - lol!