A LITTLE BLUE TODAY SO I CAME HERE TO CHAT WITH MY FRIENDS...

September 05, 2008

Hello everyone, how are you?????

A good friend of mine, well I thought she was a good friend anyways, was curious about what was up with me in my world so I told her about my IVF adventures and how I was scared and excited about all the changes and have so many hopes and dreams, and she turned out to be soooo against it she didn't want to be my friend anymore. I felt a little blue about it so I came to this board just to vent.

I know its a little bit on the negative side to think someone would be against IVF's but she wouldn't have been if she didn't conceive naturally. I don't see anything wrong with it at all.

(or else I wouldn't be here)

I wish people were more open to EVERYONE's lives, and needs and differences and be more supportive of one another.

I guess if she was a TRUE friend, she wouldn't have become so cold and distant about it, I actually have two friends that are so against it they won't even hear about it.

How are you all doing, my really close friends are so excited, my best friend keeps asking me if she can spoil my baby/ babies crazy, lol, yeah I'm optimistic I think I'm going to go for twins ;)

I have decided that I am only going to talk to those I know for sure would understand and be happy for the decisions I make in life. People are so harsh and judgemental as is,

my family (most of them anyways) are so excited, I didn't tell everyone of course in case things don't go well,, then again I'm sure they will (knock on wood) but its just better not to jinx anything but this adventure sure has many roads, some were easier than others, and some were so unexpected, I hope it all goes well. I love hearing all the positive stories from all of you wonderful Mommies to be, and I'm so excited for you...

Wishing you all the best always!!!!

Take care.

J

September 05, 2008

I am sorry that your so called friend was like that towards you. I am not sure what IVF is so it can't be that bad. But as you said if she hadn't concieved naturally she would be trying everything she could to have one too. Lots of baby dust to you and I will keep you in my prayers!!!

September 05, 2008

BTW.....

How's everyone feeling????

I am bloated! Watery and bloated.... ick!! But totally getting used to the shots, especially the follistim pen, that is sooo easy to use! SO TRUE!! :)

The needle is really small and you just poke and it goes right into your skin super easy!!! ;)

But the others I was fine with until this afternoon, I think I stuck it in the wrong spot and it just had a hard time coming out, but all is well! I can't wait to get to egg retrieval!!!

Had an ultrasound the other day and the doctor said we're right on track except he has to monitor me carefully because I have OHSS...

yikes! I am staying optimistic and positive though. Doctor added to my calendar baby aspirins to make sure I don't get blood clots so I feel like he's taking care of me so far... :)

Good nite Mommies and Mommies to be,,,

Much love and respect always.

J

September 05, 2008

Thank you so much Britaney...

;)

Cheered me up already!! THANK YOU!!!!!!

September 05, 2008

What is ohss im sorry if i sound dumb to u just ignorant to alot of the terms is all sorry again lol

September 06, 2008

Jbaby- So sorry about your friends not feeling the same about IVF as we do. It is kind of selfish of them, I'm sorry I don't mean to say anything unkind about them but what you are going through is so difficult and you need all the support you can get, every step of the way!! Please don't let them get you down. when you finally have your little sweetheart in your arms that's all that will matter :O) HUGS!!! I hope the ohss doesn't get too bad, I have heard it can be very painful so drink lots of fluid and take it easy.

Britaney- ohss is when your ovaries get overstimulated from the meds.

September 06, 2008

Jbaby, I'm sorry that your "friend" didn't support you the way that a friend should, but you have all of us on here. We are just a big family. We are here for the good times and the bad times. We give each other the support and understanding that we would all expect in return. If I hadn't gotten pregnant on my own my husband and I would have gone with alternative means to conceive. I know that ttc is a very trying time on our emotions and that is the time that you need people there for you. I'm mad at your friend for not being there for you and like I said you have all of us here who can listen, give advise, answer questions, and just be there for you. Good luck sweetie!!!!

September 06, 2008

Awww your welcome!! Thanks for the baby dust same to you as well!!!

September 08, 2008

Hi Jenstar!! THANK YOU!!! Sure know how to make me smile! THANK YOU!! :)

I agree the only thing that matters is having your little ones in your arms!! :)

I can't wait!

I guess some people are not into IVF treatments, yeah especially those that conceive so much easier than others, but everyones got different lives, problems and adventures... I do need all the love and support I can get, I'm lucky to get that from my hubby and even my mother these days, ;) and my best friend. She is now more excited than I am! lol

Just wanted to share since I know we are all somewhat going through the same journey and I wondered if anyone else had people in their lives that were against it. People can be so judgemental and harsh sometimes. But I'm happy to be part of this site and be able to chat with all of you!!! :)

THANK YOU THANK YOU!!

keep in touch k!

J

September 08, 2008

THANKS FERGIE!!!!!!!! HUGS HUGS HUGS!!!! You're the best!!!!!!!

:)

September 08, 2008

We are one big family no doubt!! :)

good times and bad indeed,, pain, achy, icky feelings included and hopefully the joy, triumph, happiness too! Wishing all of you the best always!! THANK YOU!!!!!

(I had my first hcg shot last night so feeling just a little bit bloated and sicky this morning) But very happy to have heard from you!

HUGS HUGS HUGS

Egg retrieval tomorrow, keeping my fingers crossed, if you've gone through that part of the IVF treatment yet please let me know how that is and pain factor etc...

J

September 08, 2008

THANK YOU SUNSHINE AMY!!!!!!

I feel great!! Going to get through my day with lots of cramping and bloating and achiness, but I feel wonderful thanks to all of you!!!!

A million thanks and hugs!

best wishes ttyl

J

September 08, 2008

My opinion is "who cares how they got here!!!!" whether it be with clomid, ivf, etc!!!! maybe they arent as good a friends as you thought!! I am sure if they were having problems conceiving you would be there no matter what!! please stay positive and I hope you get your bfp soon!!!!!
Kamden
KAN

September 08, 2008

Jbaby, egg retrieval is a piece of cake. Don't worry!!

September 08, 2008

HUGS HUGS HUGS, thanks Juanita!!

Couldn't have said it better myself, i soooo agree! :)

September 08, 2008

THANK YOU KAN!!!!!!! I needed to hear that, tomorrow morning is my egg retrieval, I was so nervous and scared about the pain, etc, but I am optimistic and hopeful!

:)
Kamden
KAN

September 08, 2008

The pain is so minimal. I thought it was going to be awful but it was a breeze. I did use a heating pad afterwards but thats it.

September 08, 2008

I'm sorry you are having to go through this without the support of some of your friends, but I'm glad you came here. We are full of support and love! :)

The friends against your IVF are not friends at all. Real friends will voice their opinion (for it or against it) and then will support you no matter what you decide. If I were you, I'd drop them like they're HOT! They do not deserve to have a friend like you and, from my experience, they just stab you in the back later anyway... at least, that's what happened to me.

Anyway, if you need anything, let us know! We are behind you 110%!

September 08, 2008

My Doc prescribed me vicodin so I thought uh oh major pain, but I feel better knowing its not so bad, thank you! Come on COURAGE! ;)

(I'm a leo, supposed to have lots of courage right?! lol) THANKS AGAIN SO MUCH!!

September 08, 2008

Aww, Wannabemommy, thank you!!! :)

I'm here 110% also!

HUGS

September 08, 2008

you dont need a friend like that anyway - your better off w/out her. Good lord, some people can be so judgmental when its not them that have been trying to have a baby and have to exhaust every option! I am mad at that lady and i want to punch her in her face!!! Let me at her, i'll tear her apart!!! LOL!

hope you feel better today and i know you are looking forward to posting that BFP very very soon!!!

September 08, 2008

Jbaby, anytime sweeite. Good luck on your egg retrieval. I'm sorry that you are in pain today, but I love your positive outlook, that's what keeps us going.



September 08, 2008

Chelsea,

hey there,

thanks for the cool comment,,,

I'm so glad to be able to communicate with all of you... :)

I felt really sad when I was writing this and now I feel wonderful! Glad that sharing this kind of news didn't upset anyone and I'm glad all of you understand! :)

I truly did exhaust all options and trying, never had a regular period growing up, I did when I was in my teens but that was it and all through my 20's I barely had a period!!! (clomid brought back something that made me feel like I'm having a normal period but provera reminded me for real what a period was like!!!) and I think I've bought so many tests I'm done waiting for the plus sign, and I've followed doctors orders,,, I don't see anything wrong with IVF's or IUI's or any other option, thanks for your support and encouraging words! :)

I'm all smiles now. Very achy, sore and moving slower after my hcg and nervous about tomorrow but excited too!!!

Is Dr Q your dr. also??

Have a ruling day!

J

September 08, 2008

HUGS HUGS HUGS 2 Fergie! THANKS DOLL! HUGS
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